<p>So i’m in my first year of my masters. I did co-op in my undergrad as well as took time off to work after graduation, i’m currently 23. </p>
<p>I joined the swimming club at my school and there are quite a few girls in it but they are mostly in their 2nd to 3rd so i’m guessing they are 19-21. Is it ok if I try to date them?</p>
<p>I think just as long as you aren’t their TA.
you are all adults right?</p>
<p>Yes, but best to ask only ONE of them. :)</p>
<p>Of course you can.</p>
<p>That is one of the benefits of going to graduate school. You get to relive your college days, and you get to chase women armed with your extra experience and additional confidence.</p>
<p>I was totally totally lame and awkward with girls at age 18. By age 23, I was quite better.</p>
<p>You are even in the same club, so it is not like you are an old guy prowling a college you have nothing to do with.</p>
<p>Actually, it might be good to do things in a group until you decide which of the girls are the most interesting and likely to be good to get to know better. Group settings allow you to see different aspects of personality in a more relaxed setting than one-on-one dating situations. It would be more comfortable to try to get together a bunch of males & females & go out for a bite to eat after swimming and maybe go to a movie or something afterwards.</p>
<p>It can get awkward if yo date several at the same time or date the same group serially (we did some dating in our social circle & it didn’t work out great for any of us who were involved). If all the dates remain pretty casual and no one has a big crush or hurt feelings, it can work OK to do serial casual events, but might be awkward. I think the group outings following by some smaller group events & finally narrowing it down to the girl that seems the most interesting/best fit might be the way to go. H & I started dating from a volleyball group after several group outings. We’ve just celebrated our 25th anniversary.</p>
<p>Lots of graduate students date undergraduates.</p>
<p>I dated my future husband when I was an undergraduate and he was a graduate student. </p>
<p>And my roommate ended up marrying another graduate student from my future husband’s academic department. We take credit for introducing them.</p>
<p>When I was an undergrad, I dated a grad student for several years who lived in the upperclass dorm with me. We got along great and continue to be friends decades later (tho we both married others). </p>
<p>Not at all unusual–only becomes a problem if the undergrad is a student of the grad student–then it’s best to wait until said undergrad is NOT a student of that grad student (TA) for the protection of all involved.</p>
<p>Why not? Do you think they are too old for you? Too young? Too dumb? Too smart? A date is just supposed to be a fun time out. It isn’t marriage. It wouldn’t matter if you were 50. If you’re both single and as long as you aren’t blood related, their boss, their teacher, the usual taboos. Although a 20 yr old is more likely to say yes to you now than if you wait until you’re 50. Start asking!</p>
<p>Your lips to God’s ears! I only hope my engineering major son will finally start dating by the time he hits grad school. It will be much harder to meet women once you’re out in the work force. Take advantage of the opportunity now. And good for you, joining a swim club! You will make great friends.</p>
<p>i have another question but i think i will post a new thread about it.</p>
<p>Montegut:</p>
<p>I was totally lame with women until I hit about 23 years old.</p>
<p>Then, all of a sudden, I was dating more than one gorgeous girl.</p>
<p>And the truth is, that I was not totally at ease until about age 28.</p>
<p>We all develop at our own pace.</p>
<p>I am sure your son will soon be dating. </p>
<p>Engineering is not exactly the most social of majors.</p>
<p>But he has to make himself available. Such as not studying in his room, but studying at the library, where there are other people.</p>
<p>^^^Son’s research project requires him to go to the engineering lab to work on it. Hopefully, there are some female engineering majors there, too, working, and he’ll get some exposure to the opposite sex. </p>
<p>I think the swim club is a great idea for the OP. There are many 20 and 30 somethings at my club who work out together as part of either a masters swim team or triathlete competitions. Most of them are single, and they frequently go out together after their workouts. No pressure of dating, but at least they’re having fun and interacting with people.</p>