<p>Spoon: If you send your child to BS, you will have no choice but to trust her there and rely on the in loco parentis status of the caring adults around her. You simply will not be able to do otherwise. Hopefully, she knows that you are always “available for questions” and that she can call/contact you anytime. Worrying about what you can’t control is not going to help or change anything.</p>
<p>If you do allow your child to go to BS, you will find that the relationship you have with her advisor will most likely be enough for you to feel comfortable that she is well supervised, well cared for, and easy enough to reach is she seems to be ignoring you. Control (over homework, friends, dating, free-time, clean clothes, general hygiene, etc.) is what you give up when your child no longer lives with you for long periods of time, but the advisors, teachers, coaches, dorm parents, and others do meaningfully stand in the gap. Good luck. Most here will tell you it’s worth it.</p>