I am trying to get some pointers from this thread.
I have not read the entire thread but I am over 60, though not single.
My thought is that there is no reason to be coy. You’re not 18 just starting out. You’re a mature adult that should not be wasting any time. If you are interested in a romantic relationship you should say so. If he is not, you will know. If he is, well then, be on your way. If he is put off by your frankness, he probably isn’t someone worth your while anyway. And if he tells you he is gay, you can still have a great friendship.
The whole point is, communicate.
Well, there is another possibility…
Well, I guess he could be impotent. But that should also be communicated, although I know that it could be, and shouldn’t be, embarrassing. Maybe it would not matter to the op who might be more interested in cuddling or whatever.
No one knows unless there is communication.
Well, that’s an awfully big jump to go from the tentative state that the OP is in to a discussion of whether the guy is impotent. I don’t think we need to go quite from zero to 60 at this point. Let’s establish mutual romantic interest before we investigate the particulars of how it can be expressed!
^this
PG - maybe you should start a second career: Dating advice for AARP members.
Abasket was the one with the long outing idea. I’m just a cheerleader!
Just leave this thread open on your ipad while you are int he kitchen making snacks for the Carole King viewing and he is on the couch…
Not the “he might be impotent” part!
No!!! Do not leave the thread open. If this man is like my Mr., he would be mortified to learn that a bunch of posters on the Internet were making suggestion on how to reel him in. 
My bet is that jym was kidding.
OP wrote “his college aged daughter lives in our town.” I was just thinking wouldn’t it be awful if he was reading this thread!
Too funny @BunsenBurner this made me laugh. My suggestions were aimed at what I thought a man of that age might respond to in terms of turning up the romance a little. Which is what I thought OP wanted. If we are going in for the “catch” that is whole other thread with very different suggestions.
You read me like a book, @BunsenBurner ^:)^
I disagree with those who suggest she be more direct and forward with her interests/desires. If he doesn’t feel the same way for wahtever reason (not ready for another relationship or what have you) it can sour the friendship they have. No need to make an enjoyable relationship awkward. I think something will happen (a comment, someone will fall asleep on the couch and into the other’s lap or something) that will nudge things , hopefully forward.
^^^ Fully agree with this.
I read something in the NY times Vows pages last week that’s similar in circumstances to what’s happening here with the OP, although it’s about a younger couple. I think there’s something to learn from the article, for any couple that starts out as good friends and want more:
I like the idea of a romance. But if he’s a neighbor it could be tricky if it doesn’t work out. But I hope it does
Not sure about everyone else, but I’d like an update if you have one!
Is the OP my mom? lol
Sorry anxiousenior1…not your mom!
Not much of an update…We got together once this week and had a good time, but I didn’t figure out a way to move the discussion towards “What is it we’re doing here”, or any variation on that theme. I’ll be seeing him next week for a kind of group thing that also won’t likely lend itself to any big discussion opportunities. Honestly, I am fairly fearful that he’s quite happy the way things are, and that pushing things really would sour the friendship and make things terribly awkward if he’s not interested, so I’m now really questioning whether it makes sense to even bring it up.
I’m going to ask you a question I’d ask my college aged kids in assessing interest because whether 20 or 60, I think there are more similarities than differences: How often do you text/talk/email in between seeing each other and who usually initiates it?