<p>I decided to post this in the parents forum to hopefully get some more mature answers and maybe some perspective from people other than college/HS students. Anyways, here’s my dilemma. Im a current college freshman and because of some bad family issues (don’t wanna go into for privacy) I’ve developed an irrational fear of women. Every time I meet a girl, even in a friendly situation and in public (i.e. lunch) and even if other guys are present, I tense up and act like Neo acts in the matrix when he’s facing agent smith. I just get a feeling of dread all over me and am so socailly crippled its painful. Because of past experience, its hard for me not to believe that women don’t only care about money, hate men, and are willing to ruin a man’s life just for enjoyment. I am less afraid of asian girls probably because on a subconscious level, my mind equates them as being different from my family members. My area has few ppl of other races. Also, reading articles online about how the USA is now a manhating country where women can accuse men of anything and the man goes to jail, loses everything, etc. is certainly not helping. I don’t hate women and I know many are good, but I am just afraid of them and its seriously hurting my social welfare with both genders at college. Please don’t be offended. I don’t want to feel this way. I just do.</p>
<p>If you are for real… and I have my doubts… then go to the college’s student counseling center and talk to someone about your problems. The issue is not with “women”, the issue is your own – but your are not doubt already aware of that. It’s could be partly a trust issue, but is also certainly connected to some deep lack of confidence on your part.</p>
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<p>You claim not to hate women, but I sense a lot of hostility toward women here. Seems to me it’s not the women hating men in your case, but the man hating women.</p>
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<p>Where are you finding this? Perhaps you should start helping yourself by not reading this sort of garbage.</p>
<p>I agree, get counseling.</p>
<p>Women will rip your heart out without looking back if you give them the chance.</p>
<p>There are women who will treat you badly, no doubt, and surely you are aware of the fact that there are just as many men who will treat women badly. Seems to be more of a human rather than gender thing. At least be glad that you don’t have the additional fear of physical harm that women have to be constantly vigilant against, especially at college.</p>