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<p>Of course he did LOL. He could easily be older than her father can’t begin to imagine that conversation.</p>
<p>Good luck. My daughter(s) would be sorry the day they came home to tell me this - the living together part, then the age difference.</p>
<p>I think there should be some serious conversations about babies. A 22 year old might not care much – but plenty of women start craving a baby at 30 or 35. If Dad-to-be is dead set against any babies, ever, that should be known. </p>
<p>It’s lovely to be introduced to sophisticated things by an older, knowledgeable person. That can be great fun. But it’s another to weather storms together. The older male here has got to know that he’s going to bum out her parents. If he is honorable and caring, then HE should be addressing this – not leaving it to OP to figure out on her own.</p>
<p>OK people… the OP is a new member as of a week ago, has zero posts, has not replied to any posts. </p>
<p>Can we say ■■■■■?</p>
<p>Suckered again. </p>
<p>Dang, how did we miss it?</p>
<p>Darn…this would have been much more interesting if one of us 50 year old moms had found a 22 year old stud…ewwww…so not…so “ped-I-feel-ya”</p>
<p>Sorry-- the whole thing-- ■■■■■ or not is just dirty old man hitting on someone’s daughter. </p>
<p>Wonder if they met on craigslist and there’s money involved. Sugardaddy dot com perhaps…</p>
<p>ROFL LMAO (oh, I am so tech savy I can date a 22 year old too) YUCK!</p>
<p>Give your parents a chance and tell them. They may be hurt more by the fact that you have been afraid to tell them than the age difference. I don’t know if you are looking at marrying this man, but a 30 year age difference can present its own unique set of obstacles. Are you prepared to deal with normal aging issues while you are only in your forties? You may be caring for both your parents and your boyfriend at the same time. If this is fine for you, then so be it. It is your life.</p>
<p>I suggest you tell your parents pronto and go to family therapy if needed.</p>
<p>Post # 3: He has had been married before, with a woman who cheated, and other long term relationships. He also has children, some of which I am friends with. We are open about our pasts and I have no problem with his past either.
Post #6: He wants me to be honest and tell, I am financially independent, and my relationship with my parents is a little rocky.
Post #8: I would prefer not to have kids. I have sisters and I would prefer to be an Aunt with the whole kinda like my children kinda not. And we have discussed much of this. I am the one who didn’t want to tell, he wants me too. 
Post #9: Had plenty of people “my age.” Some good, some evil, but none were for me.
Also, he is a wonderfully healthy for his age and my parents, esp dad, almost had a heart attack when I dated a 30 year old one time. He is also not a proff, I just don’t want to “disappoint my parents, as they were pretty ****ed I moved out in the first place at 21.
Also, I am not a ■■■■■, lots of ppl ask me out, and dated plenty of those; and no money involved. We met (and not from stupid CL or any site), clicked, and things happened. I know the risks I accept them. </p>
<p>Thank you others for your support.</p>
<p>He isn’t creepy. And he isn’t exploiting me, if you knew him you might not say that and wouldn’t it be me exploiting him if I should only was with him if he was Richard?</p>
<p>I care cause it is weird to preach something you wouldn’t truly practice. If two people are happy then it shouldn’t matter.
And billionaires are people too.</p>
<p>I just wanted some advice on how to tell my parents not to have a person berating me.</p>
<p>I have to be fair, I would be extremely unhappy if you were my DD, but the family I babysat for as a teen had a 35 year age difference. The wife’s parents were unhappy, but it turned out to be a great relationship, he was windowed and she was his 2nd wife. I don’t know if he had prior kids. </p>
<p>I will say that he has been dead for at least 10 years, she is 68 now and still working; the three kids are grown with kids.</p>
<p>So, it could work, but the odds are against it,.</p>
<p>As to the original question, if you are sure you want to be with him for the future, then tell your parents, but perhaps phase it in. first the into to the older man, later the living together.</p>
<p>Really? If I find out some day that one of my daughters has been living with someone, no matter the person’s age, for MONTHS, I’m going to have a hard time letting that go.</p>
<p>DH would have a “talk” with him.</p>
<p>My father is 90; his second wife is about 60 (I’m guessing; I’ve never specifically asked). When they first met, a few years after my mother died, he was in his late 50’s and she was in her late 20’s. I was in my early 20’s, and it was a hard thing to get used to my father having a girlfriend only a few years older than I was, not that long (in my mind, anyway) after my mother had died. </p>
<p>If that’s not an issue for your boyfriend’s children, you’re quite fortunate!</p>
<p>From what I’ve heard, my father always got along well with her father – even though they were around the same age – until her father died a number of years ago. But I don’t really know what kind of personality her father had, since I never met him.</p>
<p>She never wanted children, so far as I know, so that wasn’t an issue.</p>
<p>Now, and for quite a few years, she’s taken wonderful care of my father. He still goes to work at his law firm every day, so he’s not an invalid by any means, and is still very much all there mentally, but he’s had his share of health issues. She and I have never been close (and the idea that she’s technically my stepmother seems extremely strange to me, because I’ve never thought of her that way), but she’s a good person, and I’m very grateful that she’s so devoted to him. </p>
<p>She has always been very nice to J. And she was supportive when I transitioned (in terms of encouraging my father to be accepting).</p>
<p>I do hope that if you’re considering a long-term relationship, you’re prepared to take on that kind of caretaker role someday, possibly when you’re a lot younger than 60.</p>
<p>Thank you so much for the advice, and I do understand that I may have to help him. I now plan to phase it with the dating then living (thank you!). I just don’t want my dad to drop dead. He still hasn’t forgiven me for moving out last year. His kids are great but one is still in shock, I don’t blame them. The eldest had invited me to his wedding and his wife was fine with it too and has been very sweet. His friends are great too and his sister as well.
I just thought since esp. he took the responsibility that I want to as well, I don’t want to keep him hidden and have been trying to put this stuff in phases to try to ease in. Thank you all for the advice.
I know that if me and my bf make it, we do and if we don’t, we don’t; either way it’s about what makes me happy so I am giving this a shot. Thanks again. :)</p>
<p>“I am not looking for a lecture or criticism, here I just want to know how to break it as easy as possible.”</p>
<p>To specifically answer your question there is no “easy” way to tell your dad. He will be upset no matter how you do it. Be prepared for that and stay calm regardless what he says. Let him meet your friend at a later time whenever your dad is ready.</p>
<p>Thank you, I will be sure to do that too.</p>