daughter assaulted freshman fall, seeking advice re taking action

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<p>My daughter, like far too many other young women, was the victim of a threatened assault during her freshman fall last year. Unfortunately, in addition to the relational betrayal, the institutional betrayal on both the student services and academic support was truly abysmal. The combination led to her getting a horrible GPA and the school suspending her for 2 semesters. While we had no interest in her returning, this experience was crushing to her - especially since she had been recruited to the school on an academic scholarship for her superior performance in high school. Further, being put in “bad academic standing” made the transfer application process incredibly challenging. She had to complete a semester of community college (getting all A’s) - and all the schools that did not wait for those grades rejected her. </p>

<p>Happily, she has just completed the semester at a new school and did very well academically. There are still emotional scars from the experience for both of us. I am wondering about taking action vis a vis the original college for their failures to provide adequate supports and for the treatment of her academically in a way that created a hole that has been very challenging to climb out of.</p>

<p>Another part of me says to just let this go and move forward. Would love to hear other parents thoughts on this. Has anyone ever tried to get $$ refunded or any other redress for institutional negligence?</p>

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<p>I have a friend who’s daughter had a miserable first freshman semester, although not nearly as traumatic as it sounds like your daughter’s was. They just got her the heck out of the environment, and didn’t worry about the consequences. She too was on an academic scholarship, but they didn’t care about the loss.</p>

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<p>Wait was she assaulted?
I’m not clear on the legal implications of a “threatened” assault.
Did your daughtet call the police? Was this person arrested?</p>

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I am trying to get a clearer picture of the circumstances, so i apologize if this question seems insensitive. (I’m a bit confused because the title of the thread says “assault”; then your opening post says “threatened assault” which implies no assault occurred). Did an assault take place? Or is your daughter using the excuse of a “threat of assault” as an excuse for some other issue? </p>

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<p>since this is your first post, I wonder if you are choosing a new user name. It sounds like an awful experience for your daughter. It is unclear how she was assaulted, and how the attack ended. I deleted all my questions, as you should feel free to post the details that you wish. Perhaps you need an “expert” to clarify if the person stopped voluntarily, the situation re: date or stranger, the rules of the U, etc. With some research, I have found people experienced with such situations.</p>

<p>My best to you and DD.</p>