You should be glad she confides in / dumps on you. Your job is to be the receptacle of her angst / feelings of inferiority / fears. Listen. Ask if there’s anything you can do. Tell her you have faith /confidence in her. Check in regularly. Send care packages (or funny cards with $$$ for a splurge). It’s not easy - and sophomore year might be just as dramatic given higher level classes, competition for internships, etc. (Just warning you!) All you can do is tell her you will support her in whatever she decides to do (change majors / transfer / drop a class, etc.) - Winter break is a good time to take a pulse on the situation. Thanksgiving will be stressful - finals looming! - but by winter break one semester will be under her belt. If she gets together with her HS friends, and they are being honest, I bet most will share similar “not quite what I expected” experiences. It ain’t easy - especially with daughters.