<p>More females than males are getting tattoos these days, and mostly in places where casual acquaintances can’t see them.</p>
<p>The tattoo removal biz is indeed destined for boom times.</p>
<p>“My thing is…I don’t want to see the tattoo overpower the dress, and her beauty, on my daughter’s wedding day. For that reason I don’t like the shoulder ones. If I’m thinking “isn’t that a shame”, I think so would others.”</p>
<p>And some people will be thinking, “What a beautiful tattoo.” Regardless of what people think, it’s your D’s body and her view about what enhances her attractiveness that counts.</p>
<p>Quote:</p>
<p>“I’ve been through it with a few of my Ds and I’m the one who took them to the tattoo parlor! My take is that if this is the worst thing you have to worry about with your D, you’re a lucky mom. And she’s right, it’s her decision.”</p>
<p>That’s true. And I’m a lucky (and very involved) father, by the way.</p>
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<p>HisGrace, absolutely nothing provided I don’t have to look at one on my minor daughter (or son). My position for those living under my roof and my rules as my dependents expecting certain benefits as such was made quite clear. What they did after hitting 18 provided I wasn’t paying for it was their choice. Under 18, they knew that potentially they could have been chained to the hitching post through the offending ring. ;)</p>
<p>But’s that me. There are still a few perogatives left to us as parents, like paying for college, or allowing the privilege of vehicular use.</p>
<p>As a former manager, my company had a policy prohibiting excessive jewelry, nose rings, visible tattoos, etc. I had many young people turn down good jobs rather than remove a nose ring while they were at work. I never did understand it…
Am I missing something here?</p>
<p>Good job vs. nose ring…</p>
<p>I guess the unemployment rate isn’t as bad as the economists think if people will turn down a good job because of a no nose ring policy.</p>
<p>Either that or the job isn’t “good” enough.</p>
<p>As a hiring manager, given two EQUALLY qualified candidates, one with visible adornment and one without, I know to whom I would give the nod. ;)</p>
<p>But again that’s me. And the decision is also my perogative.</p>
<p>Someone I work with had a tattoo and paid for her 3 DD’s to have a matching one. (She did it when her husband was out of town on business!). Anyway, her tattoo and 2 of the girls went okay. The third daughter developed a major infection. I am not sure just what went wrong, but she will have scars by the tattoo for the rest of her life. She was on high power antibiotics, and couldn’t work for several days. None of my children have them. My DH and I don’t like them. However, our rule was that if you want one, then it has to be when you have your own health insurance.</p>
<p>I don’t mind tattoos. Neither of my kids ever wanted one. As a matter of fact the s overheard me talking about getting one a few years ago and freaked somewhat. I was interested in a rose tattoo and he said “mom, that is so estrogen …” :rolleyes:</p>
<p>It’s difficult but not impossible to get rid of tats. A few or more sessions of laser will do. There are also tattoos that does not penetrate that deeply into the skin, and will automatically fade over time.</p>
<p>To be honest, I don’t know of a single teen who would take a “No tattoos” rule to mean “No tattoos ever!” I think most every teen would take it to mean, “No tattoos while it is still my legal decision!” I seriously doubt that she was disobeying purposefully.</p>
<p>Also, tattoo removal parlors… yeah… right. That’s wishful thinking. If everyone has one (and it’s getting like that nowadays), there’s no reason to be embarrassed about having one, hence no reason to have expensive and painful surgery to have one removed.</p>
<p>A tattoo that looks good on fresh, clear, taught, young skin looks quite different on a much older person.</p>
<p>That’s who we’ll see frequenting those removal places, IMO.</p>
<p>It’s true that it looks different on a much older person, but I think (and may be wrong, of course) that if a very large percentage of older people have tattoos, it won’t be embarrassing to have one even then. It will just be normal, despite the fact that it won’t look quite as nice.</p>
<p>I allowed my daughter to get two tattoos when she was 16 and I got 2 myself. I have no regrets and neither does she at age 24. We’ve had this argument on this forum before. Your daughter will survive.</p>
<p>Couple of things-</p>
<p>We attended a wedding today. Beautiful attendants and dresses, but it was a bit shocking and distracting to see the large (8"-12") tattoos on the backs of the bridesmaids and the bride. These were college graduates, but the tats were not artsy. Large eagle, orchid, and 2 undecipherable globs of “tattoo green.”</p>
<p>Also, my student teacher had a shamrock on her lower back. Right below her thong straps. EWWWWW. Yet another reason to be sure your clothing is a). high enough b). low enough c). properly fitting enough
to keep private things private. </p>
<p>BTW the principal and the head of Human Resources were also privy to this display of “art.” Awkward for all but the student teacher, who was really oblivious.</p>
<p>No, it won’t kill her, but I can certainly sympathize with a parent being disappointed.</p>
<p>BedHead, I just can’t wait till tiny butterflies and lizards turn into giant moths and alligators.:)</p>
<p>If you’ve got a good, loving, hard-working kid who’s committed to school, loves animals, has a career path, and stays out of trouble…count your blessings and don’t sweat the small stuff. </p>
<p>If the worst thing she does with her newfound adult powers is get a little tattoo of a rat in a location that is easily covered for job interviews and formal occasions, you are a lucky parent.</p>
<p>I guess I am lucky in that I have good fascia and my skin isn’t pooled around my ankles that some think is going to happen as we get older.</p>
<p>I even was called miss about 5 times tonight which cracked me up ( not counting the * baby girl* )
;)</p>
<p>I haven’t gotten a tattoo yet- it isn’t really a priority, my daughter got one shortly after she turned 18 ( her dad took her) & it looks fine- he did a good job- I wouldn’t have chosen that particular thing, but it is her choice and her body.</p>
<p>I find it very interesting that some can be so judgmental about appearance of others. </p>
<p>Is it really any of our business?</p>
<p>My kid did this and didn’t tell me about it for months – just made certain we didn’t see it. I was ticked off, but that was three years ago, and it is not exactly important in the grand scheme of things.</p>
<p>I do agree that as tattoos become practically ubiquitous, removing or hiding them will become increasingly less important.</p>
<p>RE tattoos and employment. When I worked for a Fortune 100 company we went through HR training to desensitize us to the appearance and other personal/cultural trait things that make for a variety of people in the workplace. Diversity is not just about black and white. You can loose the opportunity to hire a really great asset if you limit yourself on the outside appearances. Tattoos and piercings are also a cultural thing in many instances so to discriminate in hiring based on that was prohibited. We were a merit based organization.</p>
<p>My D has a large (4" by 4") tattoo on her hip, visable only in a bathing suit. It is of a skull and crossbones, because she wanted everyone to know she was a bad a**. She isn’t. This was several years ago when she was 21. I was furious. I got over it and the worst thing about it now, is I think she regrets her choice of images.</p>