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That depends on the whole situation. Secondary bacterial infections are incredibly common, and many mono sufferers are prescribed steroids.</p>
<p>Thanks for everyone’s concern. She’s feeling better today, still tired but the stomach virus seems to be gone. I still have no idea what we are going to do. We just had a huge fight, she was suppose to take a calculus readiness test in June and never took it, because no one told her even though it was in the instructions. So right now they have her scheduled for pre calc. This the girl who got a 5 in AP calc. I am so mad I could spit. Of course she’s missing orientation where SHE could get this figured out.</p>
<p>I think that the stress of this whole situation is getting to me. My H is institent that she not take a semster off, he wants me to somehow figure out how to get her books home and she can homeschool for the first couple of weeks. He will not talk about taking a semster off.</p>
<p>I’m sorry, I’m really fustrated right now.</p>
<p>I am so sorry. What a stressful and frustrating situation for all of you. Not surprising that you are biting at each other a bit. have you been able to contact anyone from the school that can give you some guidance. For instance is it even possible to study at home then catch up? If she tries that then she is not getting better as soon as hoped what happens then? Is deferring an option if she cannot study at home? </p>
<p>It is horrible and almost impossible trying to make decisions with so many unknowns to factor in.</p>
<p>just a thought… have you thought about consulting with the student health center at your D’s school? They might have some ideas about how to get her through the first couple of weeks if you decide to take her. They are very experienced in dealing with college students with mono.</p>
<p>teriwitt’s suggestion above is good. Also, try to talk with the Dean of Students as well. That’s the person who is in charge of student well-being (versus the dean and others on the academic side who focus on academics . . . not to say academic folks can’t be understanding and helpful!)</p>
<p>Deb-
It’s only been 5 days since you first posted (plus probably a couple of days before that your daughter’s symptoms first appeared. Too soon to really know how quickly she’ll recover. Another week and you should know more. By then you’ll know if she can remain awake long enough to go to class, then go back to the dorm to sleep.
Maybe it’s best to take pre-calc since she’ll have an edge in the class. Dropping a class may be an option, but like I said, too soon to tell.
If you r daughter does well, she may make it to school before to long (don’t rush though). You can order the books on line from the school bookstore. Amazon and half.com (ebay) are fine too but they use media mail and it can take 2 weeks to get books. Email the profs to find out which books she needs now and to email you a syllabus. If they are really nice they can link up a student to scan and fax or copy and send class notes. I don’t think, in this case, that they’ll mind that a Mom does the contacting.</p>
<p>Keep us posted.</p>
<p>Deb, I posted here earlier, but didn’t express my concern about your D. I was in my own little fog at the time. I feel for you and your daughter. I hope she has a quick recovery, and can make it to school sooner rather than later. It sounds as if she’ll be attending a smaller college. I would imagine the profs, etc. will be very helpful and understanding, and, as usual, you’ve received some sound advice here. As I’m sure you understand the recovery will be a day to day process. </p>
<p>We did receive the good news/bad news today that DD also has mono. (good news-we know what’s wrong, bad news–it’s mono) She seemed relieved to know what was wrong. I was thinking about your situation when I told her that it could be worse. She could be starting her freshman year of college. She agreed that would be much worse. FYI–Our Dr. encouraged her to go to HS as much as possible next week. He felt like too much inactivity would make it hard for her to recover quickly–muscles weakening, etc. One thing with her though is that she really hasn’t had much of a sore throat. I’m hoping that means it’s a mild case. He also indicated it would be okay for her to start swimming again if she felt up to it. I’m giving her extra vitamins B and C, and making sure she’s taking a good multi-vitamin. She was awake (but watching TV) for about 8 straight hours today. Yippee!</p>
<p>Thanks for everyone’s comments and concerns. They are very much appreciated. I gave my D the options that my H and I had discussed and she decided that she could not go to school yet as she feels she is too weak to walk to class and dining hall. She couldn’t even finish her shower and a short trip wore her out. She finally ate a little bit yesterday and kept it down so I am hoping that her strength will come back soon.</p>
<p>She is going to try and keep up with her studies from home. I will call academic services and try to coordinate it. I’ll order her books and have them sent to our home.</p>
<p>She sees the doctor this morning and we’ll see if she has any other advice.</p>
<p>Thanks again. And rrah, so sorry to hear about your D. I wish that my D could attend classes but I don’t see how.</p>
<p>Deb and Rrah-
It’s been a week since you last posted. How are your daughters doing?
I hope you have good news to pass along.</p>
<p>Ditto crazed … and our D, who is in her 7th week of mono (and away at boarding school) started 30 min. runs each day this week and said she is feeling great! She feels is it almost kicked. Hope all is well with Deb and rrah’s Ds.</p>
<p>our son who had mono his freshman year at Duke also found that eating breakfast by 8 and getting morning sun, helped him regain some strength, reset his body clock from the excessive sleep, and helped him fall asleep closer to midnight, which became essential for his mind to clear and for his body to be ready for the return to exercise. He was a bit tentative about working out at first but it really did help. I would love to hear what is up and hope that things are improving!</p>
<p>Thanks for the inquiry! D went to her Dr. for the third time last week because the sore throat that often accompanies mono finally arrived. My petite D had the neck of a football player. Dr. prescribed prednisone to relieve the swelling. It worked miracles. Actually it worked almost too well as her reaction was a bit of hyperactivity. I forgot she reacts that way to steroids. I’m sure her teachers questioned her mono diagnosis on Friday. She had been alternating 1/2 days at school between morning and afternoon and stayed home on Thursday with the sore throat. </p>
<p>The long weekend was good for her as she was able to nap frequently, and I forced her to sit outside in the sunshine for awhile. </p>
<p>She made it through the whole school day today, and is working on some homework now. She’s hoping she can begin preseason conditioning later this week (running and light weights–no contact sports for this girl). I’ve learned to take it a day at a time though. </p>
<p>I’ve been dosing her with lots of extra B and C vitamins, encouraging her to drink green tea, and anything else I can think of that might help boost the immune system. She complained yesterday that with all the “pills” she’s taking she feels like a 90 year old person. </p>
<p>I’m hoping she doesn’t “relapse” but am prepared for it to happen. </p>
<p>I learned last week one of her teammates also has mono and was hospitalized over the weekend. I think it was a swelling/breathing issue as the young woman has asthma, and her mother indicated she was very swollen on Friday.</p>
<p>Faline–I keep warning D about her body clock getting messed up. As she’s still in HS she usually has to get up by 6:30 to make it to school in time. That should help her reset the clock.</p>
<p>I hope Deb’s D has been able to make it to college.</p>
<p>don’t push the exercise and do allow your dd to take it easy. sometimes it takes weeks to recover, and pushing forward when your DD really needs to rest can be dangerous and may slow recovery.</p>
<p>rrah - as the parent of a college kid who did have a relapse (about two weeks after she thought she’d gotten over it), I can say easily, the relapse was far worse than the first bout. Do whatever you can to avoid it.</p>
<p>good to hear from parents of kids dealing with mono…and hoping that the recovery time is not too far off for each of them…our son was home sick in dark December, peacefully sleeping in darkened rooms with no worries, no schoolwork and with no one his age wanting to come over (wonder why?), so he really sort of got “too much rest”…then returned to school and got “too little rest” because of trying to do the 2am deal every night with healthier kids…once he took on the 8am till midnight/lights out hours of a middleaged working man, he recovered. Sleep deprivation in college today is more serious than in our era due to the many seductive distractions like FACEBOOK, texting and etc that further rob college kids of scarce study and sleep in newly addictive ways…he failed to give up his pre mono social life at first and had a mild relapse until he got the message that he had to back off of some of his social wishes</p>
<p>yes, the key is to take some time off to rest and when she resumes it could take weeks and months. If possible reduce her class load to 12 hours the minimum she can carry. No strenuous activities…just let her body heal/recuperate. If her spleen area becomes tender take her in immediately. Otherwise…hang in there. My D had it fall her soph year. lingered for months.</p>
<p>Mine is now finally (knocking on wood after a bad week last week) seeming really to have energy and to feel somewhat better. It’s been just over four months. I don’t with this on anyone.</p>
<p>great update zoosermom…yep, too, I agree with Atlmom…Underload! academically…they have summers to compensate for this ahead of them and who knows…a summer foreign study or a summer very difficult courseload could be a blessing in disguise later on when one has already progressed a bit in terms of vocational ideas/course selection. We lost a LOT of money when son finally dropped his most difficult and abstract thinking course…but he saved his GPA and confidence and nailed that course the next round</p>
<p>I’m sorry I haven’t updated but I’ve been out of town and away from the internet for more than a week.</p>
<p>I did take my D to college last Weds, it was probably a little early, but it seems to ok now. She missed most of the first week of classes and is having a little bit of trouble. The hardest thing has been getting the books that she needs. It seems that by the time she went to the bookstore they were out of the books that she needed (the book list was not posted and they found out on the first day of class). She just ordered the last of her books yesterday.</p>
<p>She says that she is finally feeling better. I think that she mostly rested in her dorm the first weekend. I think that she is a little behind in her classes but she should be able to catch up. She’s concerned about her engineering class, it’s mostly programming and she know nothing about programming but I’m sure that she’ll figure it out. She ordered C++ for idiots, hopefully that will help, LOL.</p>
<p>She knows that she can’t drink alcohol for a while and seems ok with that. She does not want to jepardize her health so she says she will not be going to parties. My D is meeting people and is not complaining about being lonely, I know that she has lots of homework and that is keeping her very busy. Her roomate seems nice and I think that the girls on her hall are friendly.</p>
<p>She did not have to audition for orchestra but they placed her in the wind ensemble and she is one of the last chairs. She is disappointed about that, she prepared a nice audition but maybe it will be ok. She won’t have to practice very much, the music was not hard so it might be a blessing and she can prove herself throughout the year.</p>
<p>Thanks to everyone who supported us. It was so helpful. I will see how she fares throughout the semester and my mantra is don’t over do things and take it easy. Time will tell if she follows my advice.</p>
<p>Deb, I’m so glad to hear your good news. You must be so relieved. Please do remember to be patient (daughter too) because this can come back in different and unexpected ways for a while. Best of luck to both of you!</p>