<p>Well, I’ve been reading these comments from parents and hoping to prepare myself for my daughter leaving for school, 2 hours away, but I am having a bad time of it. She moved in 6 day ago. She is homesick but fighting to be OK. She has made friends with her roommates. That part seems ok but she texts often an IM’s often and don’t know if that is good for her. She does let me know every worry and concern… I am just not sure whether to gently push her to “figure it out” or what to say. We have always been very close and this is very difficult. I don’t have alot of support at home from my husband. He deals with emotion by not facing things…maybe works for him but it makes it very difficult for me to discuss this with him.</p>
<p>Sounds like my D. Communications declined after the first few weeks. DW and I did “triage” on questions from D. If it was something better done at her end we declined to get involved. “Gee, I really have no idea on that.” For complex issues we did offer suggestions.</p>
<p>I talk to my mom constantly. I don’t think I’m having problems adjusting, though.</p>
<p>I heard this from a parental perspective, but I think it applies here too.</p>
<p>Your D has gone through 17/18 years of life having you there every minute. It’s not fair to expect her to go “cold turkey” after a week. Give her the time she needs to adjust.</p>
<p>Thanks for that perspective. I just want to make it as easy as possible for her…Last night I took her some things we forgot to pack and leaving was so hard again. Today she IMd me and said “thanks for not crying last night, it made watching you leave easier”. Very emotional time for all right now.</p>
<p>I agree to let her be in touch as much as she wants now. You need to lead her towards making her own decisions about things, but you can certainly be a supportive listener. When she expresses a worry, just be careful about trying to fix everything. Just listening will make her and you feel better. If she asks advice, ask her what she is inclined to do and then have a discussion. Chances are she will get more and more comfortable on her own and just drift away a bit. My D has called one or two times a day since she left and has emailed too and I can see already that she is adjusting more and more.</p>