<p><a href=“Daughter's Facebook Brag Costs Her Family $80,000”>Daughter's Facebook Brag Costs Her Family $80,000;
<p>I don’t think I would be pleased if my daughter posts something like this on the Facebook.</p>
<p>Girl sounds like a spoiled brat. Probably a good dose of reality. </p>
<p>Well, hope the D likes her job. Maybe SHE will pay papa $80K for what she caused him to lose? Actually, it was dumb of dad to tell D–like they said WW2, “loose lips sink ships!” Sounds like none of them will be spending any part of the $80K and it may cost even more because dad’s attorney may have been expected to get his fee from the $80K–D and dad may need to pay what the attorney should have received. </p>
<p>Yes, the dad was most at fault. If he had kept his mouth shut or just tild D that. Mutual agreement had been reached, it would have been fine and nothing that D could harm by broadcasting. </p>
<p>Photo does not help the dad’s appeal. ;)</p>
<p>Well, the D was dumb, that’s for sure. Under the premise of teaching your kids about The Real World, I don’t think the dad was wrong to share the information with the D. But he should have emphasized the “confidentiality” part of the agreement, no doubt about that.</p>
<p>Maybe the parents wasted 80k in tuition at a school that didnt teach her much, especially about discretion</p>
<p>The mistake was made by the father. He was the one obligated to maintain confidentiality but didn’t do so. If the father did not tell the daughter to keep it confidential then how is the girl a fault? </p>
<p>The problem was that the father was enjoined from telling the daughter. But he did. It’s on him; if he had shut up like he agreed to, he’d still have the money.</p>
<p>The parents could have simply told her that they had come to a mutual agreement but were bound by an agreement to not disclose any terms. Not one of my kids would have challenged me about it.</p>
<p>The father used to be the principal at my son’s parochial HS (not the school mentioned in the article). He was a jerk back then and the hordes of dissatisfied parents complained long and hard until he was replaced. He was a horrible administrator. Looks like he hasn’t changed much and his daughter has many of the same attitudes that he did. </p>
<p>We used to talk a lot about work at our dinner table when kids used to live at home. Few years ago, when I left my job, I also had an agreement with my employer about not disclosing my settlement and I had to be on a garden leave for 3 months. Now, I am pretty sure I didn’t saying anything to my kids about not to talk to people about it, but I am very certain my kids knew not to tell their friends about my business. My kids have their own life, the last thing they would do is to post something about their parents on their FB. I don’t think the parents would have expected their daughter to post something like that on the FB. Why would they?</p>
<p>This reminds me of the Downton Abbey thread. The D is clearly a braying ass. She has very poor instincts. If she has any discretion whatever, whe would at least have talked to her father about it.</p>
<p>Fwiw, I don’t think my dad would’ve kept something like this from me even if he was required to by the terms of an agreement. He was involved in a series of lawsuits when I was in high school because the president of the league that we were on the board for was eventually convicted of embezzling over 100k from the org. Lying or not telling me about something is just not something he could do even if he tried. </p>
<p>But at 17, you should know when you need to keep your mouth shut. Shame on her parents for not imprinting that enough on her. </p>
<p>@patsmom, that explains a lot. </p>
<p>Very stupid, but there are plenty of people who have no sense of discretion and/or feel their need to blab at the risk of bursting overrides other considerations. </p>
<p>A reason why if there is information which must be kept secret or discrete, my preference is to not bring it up or to discretely change the subject. </p>
<p>This was reinforced when in some previous firms, I’ve seen colleagues and even some senior management folks get terminated and/or legally sanctioned for failing to adhere to the strict non-disclosure confidentiality terms we had to sign as condition of our employment. Some of those terms were written so strictly that one can’t even discuss specifics about the job with one’s immediate family…including the spouse. </p>
<p>My kiddos are VERY good at keeping secrets–even better than H and me, and that’s saying a lot. By the time you have a kid in late teens/early 20s, you tend to have a very good feel for their discretion or lack thereof. In any case, I can’t see how any kid can FORCE a parent to disclose something that by law they are NOT allowed to disclose.</p>
<p>Sounds like the school was very fortunate to get rid of this administrator and may have been able to even save the settlement funds they would otherwise have to have paid. I can’t ever imagine posting the picture the D posted on her facebook page (if it is her photo or from her facebook page); it’s so unflattering and just ick!</p>
<p>While many teens are good at keeping secrets, too many aren’t…especially about money windfalls. The dad never should have told his D. His mistake.</p>
<p>And I agree with HImom about the pic. it’s just one of many self-absorbed pics that young people post of themselves with their tongues hanging out. Gross.</p>
<p>The father’s fault really. Once again another example of lack of personal responsibility in our society. Had the father given her a car and skilled someone while DWI, is it the father’s fault as well?</p>
<p>My dad won a settlement in a lawsuit that had a non-disclosure clause. We saw the details when going through his personal effects after he died. Although he received very little money after the lawyers were paid and Medicare, and United HealthCare were repaid, none of us would disclose anything even now. Dad taught us about discretion. </p>
<p>There is only one way to make certain confidential information isn’t shared. You tell no one. That way there is nothing left to chance. </p>
<p>I think the photo of the daughter in the article along with the last two words in her FB post says all that needs to be said.</p>
<p>How standard are these non-disclosure clauses? Is it even possible to accept a settlement without one? And then, if you don’t want to remain silent, can you deny the settlement but tell the world exactly what was offered you? </p>