Again… My adult self is not so thrilled with my college self. I was that 5th wheel, per se. My wife then girlfriend roomed with her girlfriend that with her boyfriend we all knew each other. Sure one night I stayed there in her bunk with roommate in top bunk. Same for girlfriend and her boyfriend when I wasn’t around. We all grew up together. The most fun was when both of us boys were there with our girlfriends (both current wives, this was 32 years ago) since we would just stay up all night and talk etc. Fun times…
But did her roommate and vice versa really appreciate me or him staying over (this was all once in awhile)?. 2 young adults aren’t just sleeping… Can’t imagine what I would find out if I asked that person today…hmm.
Here’s my take… No one and I mean no one should be made to feel uncomfortable. If your daughter is good with it, then it wouldn’t of been a post here. Since she is uncomfortable with it then other plans should be made. I just think that’s fair.