<p>Dead Clemson girl - Tiffany Souers - may have been murdered by someone that contacted her thru her Facebook listing.</p>
<p>Authorities are investigating a male that she corresponded with thru her Facebook site. She had posted rather provocative pics of herself (no nudity). It is suspected that the male and her had set up a meeting and then he raped and murdered her. </p>
<p>There have been threads and posts voicing the concerns about Facebook, Myspace, etc. If the murdere turns out to be linked to this girl’s Facebook listing, more parents will be rightfully concerned about these websites.</p>
<p>I am more concerned about kids that will go meet strangers…what was that girl thinking? It is not the websites, its the people that don’t think</p>
<p>I am so sorry she was murdered it was horrid, and I am not blaming the victim, but with all the news out there about dangerous people, sometimes young people think they are smarter then everyone else, better drivers, can handle it, and won’t tell people what is going on for fear of getting in trouble</p>
<p>And, I am not blaming the victim, be clear on that, but why take chances in this day and age? Why meet someone alone? I don’t understand…its like drinking and driving, just too sad</p>
<p>And my daughter thought I was crazy! She met a guy online who lived about 6 hours away and was going to meet him (with friends in tow). She told me about this and I had a FBI friend do a background check on him. She was so angry with me, but the guy said at least he knew he better walk the straight and narrow (they have been dating a year now). They just don’t think that these bad things in the news will happen to them and we parents are convinced that everything bad we read about WLL happen to our children.</p>
<p>We need to keep things in perspective…ANY killing of anyone is horrid, but how many women are killed EVERY day by their husbands? Beaten by boyfriends, date raped by acquantencces?</p>
<p>While we focus on the internet and the dangers there, we forget how many mothers are murdered by their childrens’ fathers, domestic abuse, women running for their lives from men they trusted and KNEW</p>
<p>So while the death of this college girl is a warning, we must not forget the DAILY murders committed by men who people know</p>
<p>On average, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends in this country every day. In 2000, 1,247 women were killed by an intimate partner. The same year, 440 men were killed by an intimate partner.16
Women are much more likely than men to be killed by an intimate partner. In 2000, intimate partner homicides accounted for 33.5 percent of the murders of women and less than four percent of the murders of men.17</p>
<p>The point I am trying to make, is that we need to have strong girls and women who can recognize the danger signs, don’t think they need to stay with a bad person, see that doing something, like meeting a stranger one met on line is foolish, and that taking care of themselves is more important than any “romance” with a stranger, or any “marriage” to an abuser.</p>
<p>People are so desperate to make connections, judgement gets clouded, often with deadly consequences</p>
<p>You’re right, we need for females to be able to recognize danger signs and to not put themselves in risky situations with males that they know and don’t know.</p>
<p>Primetimemom, I haven’t seen any report of alcohol or facebook playing a part in this tragedy. There’s supposed to be a press conference today announcing further information. I have to say that, unless a link to a reputable source can be provided, making statements about ‘possibilities’ in such a tragic case as this is nothing but provocative.</p>
<p>I have no knowledge of this tragedy; but why the ideological defense of Facebook and the internet universally. It seems almost dogmatic in its intensity.</p>
<p>Honestly, whose Ox is being gored here? Is this political? I dont really get it. How is it provocative? Could someone address this.</p>
<p>As an aside:
CGM, you must have had some kind of relationships with men in your lifetime. Wow!</p>
<p>FountainSiren, it’s hardly an ideological defense. It’s simply a comment that there is no reason to speculate that a facebook connection is responsible for this young girl’s murder, and then to cause possibly undue concern among parents whose children may use facebook. There was no link given to any report that this is the case. If, in fact, it IS the case that there is a connection, then a link to a news report, or even a comment as to where it was heard/read, is more responsible.</p>
<p>I don’t think we can blame Facebook. Every single teenager should know the rules about the Internet: DO NOT MEET STRANGERS in person that you have “met” on-line!</p>
<p>Youre pretty good with words; so, in what sense did you mean that the OPs referencing Facebook was provocative, as you say. </p>
<p>Provocative means to provoke and stimulate controversy. What is the provocation here?</p>
<p>I have my own page on Facebook Im neither for nor against it, whatever that would mean. It just seems to me that there is a subtext to this thread; a lot of <em>HOT</em> words, and I am wondering what this is all about. CGM was all over this; Allmusic lept to the defense of the Facebook Corporation, urging all not to play the *blame game<a href=“although,%20%22girls%20shouldn%C2%92t%20be%20stupid,%22%20etc.”>/i</a>; and you felt you were being provoked by the OP.</p>
<p>If you or anyone else has the time, a straight answer would be appreciated.</p>
<p>All the news accounts of the incident seem to mention Facebook–local and national, though none link it.</p>
<p>That’s a good rule for children, but how about adults and young adults? It seems to me that the whole premise behind the hugely-popular internet dating scene is to meet strangers that you first met on-line. E-harmony and match.com are counting on it.</p>
<p>Is meeting a stranger through Facebook any different from meeting one through match.com?</p>
<p>Moreover, I’ve met in person dozens of people whom I’ve first encountered online. Some have gone on to become very good friends. (And some are even from here on CC!) Adults may have better developed powers of discretion than teens, and may be better able to heed the tingly warning bells going off at the suggestion of a less-than-comfortable meeting plan.</p>
<p>I don’t think teenagers have built in the caution that many adults have. I takes life experience to learn to be a better judge of situations. Sure, terrible things can happen on match.com too, I’d imagine, but one hopes that young adults and adults have more savvy about meeting in public places, not giving home phone or address, last name, etc.</p>
<p>I didn’t provide a “link” about the police tying a possible Facebook contact with the murder because the report was on the tv news. The suspect is also believed to have used either her credit card or debit card shortly after the murder and a picture of the suspect will soon be released to the public for help in identifying him.</p>
<p>These terrible things happen all the time. Some time back, a California girl was killed by guy who claimed to be a photographer and wanted to take some pictures of her. After that happened, a guy and a girl (boyfriend and girlfriend) came forward and said that a similar thing had happened to the girl but the attack had been thrwarted because the boyfriend had come along and watched from a short distance and stopped the photographer from forcing his girlfriend into a car.</p>
<p>Someone found Tiffany’s driver’s license along a road 1 1/2 mi. from the apt. and hopefully it will have fingerprints on it. The networks are waiting for a press conference and will show the enhanced surveillance film of the killer. They believe he’s still in the area.</p>