Two years ago, I met my friend Sage* though an extracurricular. She was super nice at first, but once we got more comfortable with each other, she changed completely. Among many things she has:
Said I act like someone with austism/aspergers. When I confronted her about this, she said it was a joke.
Said my hair is ugly.
Said my brother is annoying & that my parents haven't done a good job raising him ( I found this highly offensive because I LOVE my family).
Said I will one day end up a divorcee.
Constantly complains about my mother being late (by 5 minutes). I help her out a lot my giving her lots rides, and this is how she repays me??
Said I am entitled.
My family is well-off and hers is not, so any time I buy something, she looks it up on the Internet to see how much I spent.
Called my closet "sad"
Constantly says mean things about almost ALL my friends.
^^^ Sadly that isn't even everything.
Then yesterday, I bought the same purse as her on the internet and she got really upset and started swearing at me. I didn’t realize she would be “hurt” by this. I was upset by what she said to me & we haven’t spoken since.
So my question is… am I overacting? Should I try make an effort to reconcile? Or is she not worth it?
One of my “friends” said similar things–that I’d be like a certain teacher at our high school (unmarried, cranky, kinda weird), or that if I just tried with my makeup I’d be so much hotter, or that I could get, as a boyfriend, someone our age but ugly, or someone younger but somewhat attractive.
Like, thanks, dude.
I minimized the time I spent with him and similar people. You don’t need that in your life.
@SirSly- You and me both- she drives me crazy. The problem is when she says nice stuff I think she’s changed and I stick around. @bodangles- She did the same thing with me and makeup. Like: “You’d look so much prettier with a little bit of mascara!” or " You should dye your hair this color, it would look so much better!" It’s a backhanded compliment.
I called her tonight to see if we could end things friendly. I tried to “apologize” but stated I didn’t understand why she was so upset I bought the same purse as her. She went on for ages about how I was so stupid for not knowing that every girl in the world would feel the same way about the stupid purse. It was hilarious, because obviously most women in the world would be overjoyed to even have a purse.
Yikes!!! I would stay away… or just know that there’s nothing wrong with you and some people are just… not nice…
You’ve done everything you can to be a good friend. If she doesn’t see that, then she isn’t worth your time. There may be something going on in her life that is making her act this way, but it should’t have weight on how she treats you.
You are not over reacting. She doesn’t seem like a good friend I’m sorry you have to deal with this
If anything, she’s the one overreacting - not you!
There’s really no reason to reconcile with her. She sounds like… someone that most people wouldn’t want to be around. She’s completely disrespectful to you, your friends, and even your family members!!
If I were you, I’d cut her off completely. I’m sorry you had to deal with a “friend” like that!!
wow, this person reminds me of someone i know, you may feel like you want to be friends with this person, but they are like a virus of negativitiy or something…these kinds of people are manupliative people and being around them, especially letting them influence you is a bad idea, you cant just say your not my friend anymore bye. but dont invite them over, dont give them rides, make an excuse, and NOT a well thought of one, like oneday say an excuse so retarded that they know what your doing and they will get so pissed becuase your not even putting any effort in it or going at them directly
Thanks guys!
This confirms for me that I need to step away from this friendship. I’m not getting anything out of it, and it’s knocking my self confidence:)
I’m sorry you have to deal with this 
