<p>*Sorry to jump in late to thread, but maybe mom/ dad mentioned grades to Gp’s out of frustration over younger D’s relative lack of effort in high school ? I know I vented to my mother over my oldest stepsons grades in high school when he would get a D in Spanish because he did not complete assgts! If you can’t vent to your parents about your kids who can you vent to?
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<p>You vent to people who won’t be withholding and punishing with the info. </p>
<p>I know that my FIL was always very enamored with high academic achievement and (wrongly) dismissed those who were more average as being destined for low-paying careers. If he had been very rich and likely a source for college funding, he’d be the last person that I would have shared info that would cause him to “financially punish” one of my kids.</p>