<p>Are some men actually this clueless?
[Carolyn</a> Hax: If he chooses ‘best man,’ he loses ‘best dad’ and ‘best husband’ honors | Living | The Seattle Times](<a href=“http://seattletimes.nwsource.com/html/living/2018312140_hax07.html]Carolyn”>http://seattletimes.nwsource.com/html/living/2018312140_hax07.html)</p>
<p>If the groom-to-be is any kind of decent human being, he would tell the best man to go home and be with his very pregnant wife.</p>
<p>I loved Carolyn’s answer, it was just perfect! I would guess that most men are not that clueless, just a few.</p>
<p>When I was in the Air Force, one of my squadron mates was just dying to take a short, 2 day flight, a week before his wife was due. So he took the chance, and took that flight. Of course, she gave birth while he was gone. They were divorced within a few months of the babies birth. Just sayin…not a wise choice!</p>
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<p>Yep, sounds like this marriage might end up on the shoals of divorce court at some time in the future…</p>
<p>Although now that I think about it, while my 31st anniv is next week, I can think of a few things H did during the first couple years of our marriage that were pretty clueless.
:mad: 
:eek:
Luckily most men are educable, and I suspect the advice seeker, if he actually is real and not a composite, knows where his responsibilty lies.</p>
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During S’s birth I hemorrhaged badly, and had to be put under. Would have been so unfortunate if H had not been there and I hadn’t survived. Father dear should get a clue :)</p>
<p>I remember that my dh wanted to go to his grandmother’s funeral out of state around the time I was due. HIS mother told him no!</p>