screenname, this is a forum full of opinions. If you post a question and ask for opinions, you have to expect people to disagree with you. On the OP’s previous thread (which I was involved in and remembered once I reread it), the opinions were overwhelmingly against his. But that’s life on this- and most- forums.
I don’t know where you are getting the idea that we have to “cordially welcome” people. If the OP’s first thread is asking for opinions, opinions s/he will get.
OP, I still stick by what I said several years ago. If you continually are a “guiding hand” for your children, they won’t learn how to do things on their own.
IMO, part of life is learning how to fall on your butt, get up, and brush yourself off. Those falls are part of the experience of life. How boring life would be (IMO) if you never experienced failure. But your kids can’t do that if your hand is constantly under them holding up a net.
I also stick by what I said that of course children with LDs, children with extra problems- mental illness, physical illness, etc, and similar should get more support than children without these things.
There is a HUGE HUGE HUGE gulf between throwing your kid out at 18 and never talking to them again and emailing back and forth with their advisors, professors, etc. It’s not an either/or situation.