This is only the second post OP has made in the past 2 years. What’s prompting this now?
"I want to let fellow parents who may also be struggling with letting go of their college-age students
I think it is important, as parents, to separate what we do for our own needs (missing them, wanting to feel helpful and needed) from what is best for our kids (legitimate help because we are experts in a particular area AND our children have asked for our help).
I agree with @raclut that it can backfire because the young adult child isn’t learning from mistakes or doesn’t learn to trust their own judgement if mom/dad are constantly stepping in.
Like most things, it’s hard to make blanket statements regarding whether it is good or bad. A lot depends on the context and the degree of involvement. Sometimes, parents aren’t the best at objectively judging their own involvement and “help”.