<p>I was accepted at UCLA as a transfer, but ended up getting pregnant after I applied (yes, i am married and in my thirties). It looks like UCLA will force me to re-apply if I am denied a deferral of my first semester (which is rarely given). This seems like it would be against the discrimination law, but I would love some suggestions. HELP! I worked tooooo hard for this.</p>
<p>I don’t think it is against the discrimination law, UCLA offered you a place you are unable to use it so you should forfeit it. I think that seems fair. I’m pretty sure you chose to get pregnant and jeopardize your enrollment.</p>
<p>I agree with Simonphase…they’re not discriminating against you at all…</p>
<p>If attending UCLA was important to your future, getting pregnant should have been held off at least another year or two. Remember we as adults choose when and where to have kids, they dont choose to have us. But dont worry you should just apply again and get accepted again. If they wanted you once, they will want you again.</p>
<p>i’m not trying to be rude or offensive here, but unless your pregnancy was a result of sexually assault, they’re not really discriminating you. you made the conscious decision to become pregnant (or unless ur gloves ripped)</p>
<p>Why is everyone assuming the OP planned this pregnancy?</p>
<p>I have to agree with I<3Cougars…we as adults should know not all babies are planned.</p>
<p>Married, thirties…tick tock tick tock… I don’t mean to be a dick but yes the biological clock is ticking and not only that, they should have used birth control if they wanted to avoid this… if UCLA means that much they would have taken precautions. I take care with what I do all the time so I don’t jeopardize the next two years for myself!</p>
<p>Porosco, although the “discrimination” method may not work, there may be another alternative. Try to call up admissions and ask for the best course action. Perhaps if you can explain this sudden situation, UCLA may grant your deferral.</p>
<p>However, you must ask yourself, will you really be ready to go to college next year? Your child will only be about one, that’s still very young. The first five years are extremely important for child development; caring and stimulating this newborn will be like a full-time job. Can you really juggle motherhood and college at the same time?</p>
<p>Children are never accidents. You make decisions knowing full well that it could lead to the birth of a human. How is that not planned? Sure you make MISTAKES, but you never accidentally have a kid…I cant believe people still use that excuse. It’s not an accident its a mistake. It’s an accident if you fall and your shlong penetrates her taco, and you never leaned in school what happens next…thats an accident. Would you say someone texting while driving that hits someone else is an accident? No, it was stupidity resulting in a crash. At the very least it’s negligence. Sure it was not planned, but does that mean the texting driver should blame anyone other than himself?</p>
<p>Wow vintij shut up you close-minded ignorant prick. You don’t even know this woman’s situation and yet your running your mouth like your her freakin’ mom.</p>
<p>In general, I would agree with vintij. I don’t know porosco’s situation thought.</p>
<p>Perhaps a moderator should intervene here? LOL!</p>
<p>Funny how so many of these 18-22 yr olds are talking down to someone who is in their thirties. You guys are speaking from SO MUCH life experience right?</p>
<p>Feel some compassion, people.</p>
<p>I wish you the best porosco.</p>
<p>I know several people under 20 with more life experiences than some 30 year olds. Age is not the only determining factor in life experience.</p>
<p>Congratulations on the baby. Unfortunately I know nothing about the deferral, but I do know ucla allows you to live in their apartments with your spouse and kids if you are married. Hopefully everything will work out for you.</p>
<p>Hmm, people might hate me (some already do 
), but I have to agree with Vintij on this one. Even though he could have put it in a more subtle way, the responsibility remains in the individual when it comes to a controlled pregnancy. Discrimination will not work in this case, I think you are confusing going to school with going to work. True, employers must allow leave of absence when a women becomes pregnant, but educational institutions need not follow that regulation.</p>
<p>Congrats on the baby, I seriously would not think about school anymore. You have a child now, and regardless of what people say or think, you’re not going anywhere for at least 3-5 years.</p>
<p>finish one quarter at UCLA then they will allow u to skip one (or more if u petition ??.. not sure) quarter. so… just go to the website and look for the grounds for leaving the school w/o any harm. Think it would be best to call registrar’s office and ask for the best options. People here will only give u some suggestions about life, not about the school system which they have yet to experience. ----- so… finish one quarter and by the time the birth is coming, file for leave of absence.</p>
<p>This is the equivalent of pulling the race card yes?
Don’t come looking for sympathy here…
Maybe you should have been smarter, just a thought.</p>