So it’s difficult, so what? If this is your biggest difficulty, you’ve lived a charmed life. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and take advantage of the opportunities you do have.
Guess what–your response to obstacles and challenges is important to who you are. Being obtuse and intransigent when faced with failure is a character flaw.
OK, so you’re a New York resident now. Are these the only schools you applied to? Didn’t you apply to at least one in-state option, like SUNY Stony Brook or Binghampton?
By “offered” are you referring only to grants, or is that a combination of grants & loans? With no help from your parents, you need to be targeting schools where you can get merit $…a LOT of merit $.
Several things.
I follow big time college football.
Do you need me to ask more in detail?
@paul2752 I had an uncle who applied to Stanford grad three times and did not get in. Said it was his dream school as well, so I am, in part, living his dreams. I was hoping to apply for an athletic scholarship but tore the ACL and did not have enough footage from junior year to make an impression from the East Coast. Not having a chance athletically, then losing it academically = double blow to my already obsessive aspirations.
@marvin100 Thank you. Especially for the insight on the community college prospect.
@NUwildcat92 OK, I did apply to UB, and I am in state, so the tuition is low. However, engineering is not a strong suit there, so I didn’t give much thought to it.
@PurpleTitan So do I. Stanford’s recent surge in the national polls made it all the more difficult when I did not receive any scholarship for football following my ACL tear that sidelined almost my entire senior season.
@ucbalumnus Thank you for that insight. Do you think a gap year would be a great choice, given my current financial situation, and how would I go about convincing my parents of that?
@ZigaloZiggyZig, are you saying you were a legit Stanford football recruit until you tore your ACL?
ABET accredited engineering should be fine there. However, given your parents’ income, even in-state SUNY would probably cost too much for you to self-fund without any parent contribution (unless you got significant merit scholarship to bring the net price below $10,000 or so per year, or you live nearby and your parents let you stay at home and commute at no cost to you).
@NUwildcat92 Competing for one, at least. I had emails for camps across the nation and interest from USC prior to the ACL tear that sidelined me for about 9 months. Finally getting into gear but, of course, all the football scholarships are out and already spring training and such has begun.
As for financial aid, Yes it is the total package of grants + scholarships.
@NUwildcat92 So no, not a legit recruit. Had emails from Stanford regarding football though.
@NUwildcat92, this is why I have doubts about what the OP is saying.
I follow college football recruiting pretty closely.
You don’t apply for an athletic scholarship.
And someone who was drawing legitimate interest from Stanford before blowing an ACL would have scholarship offers from programs far above Holy Cross.
Remember Christian Jones? Kain Colter?
@ucbalumnus I got the provost scholarship and I can commute. However, would UB engineering, even if ABET, garner respect from upper grad schools? Also, the prospect of gap year. Is that actually a viable option? Much of the reason my parents do not want to support me financially is because 1) I go to a prestigious HS by my father’s will, so that was 13,000 per year, and 2) they thought football would pan out, which i assume will jeopardize any football aspirations.
@PurpleTitan I applied for freshman admissions. I was hoping for legitimate football interest. Also, my ACL tear, and the full reconstruction, and the additional dislocation of my knee cap was believed to be career ending, or at the very least extreme hindrance on future ability, just like Jaylon Smith. 9 months and I’ve just been cleared to work out, so ya interest was lost by the majority of schools by the time senior year rolled around.
Considering the OP’s obsession with Stanford, I’d suspect that any contact with the university was considered sacred, however minimal. I’m sorry about the ACL and all that, but do get over Stanford. It’s just a university. There are thousands of fine colleges in the US, and I’m sure you can live a fulfilling life attending any one of them.
Will your parents not take the $13k that they were paying toward HS and put it toward college?
@whitespace In fact, no. They thought I should be able to get the merit to fund my college life after “disgruntingly” paying 52k for the high school I was forced to attend. However, I hoped that after the first year of college, when the 13k bill was gone, I would slowly receive financial aid and support.
@PurpleTitan, I hear you. “Interest from USC” should mean standing offers from half the WAC & Mountain West.
P.s. Yes!
You weren’t “forced to attend” any HS that cost money. Private HS instead of public is a choice, not a necessity. It is also not a guaranteed path to selective college…
So your injury was thought to be career-ending but you were hoping for football interest?
Anyway, I’ll check out now.
@whitespace. Yes, but they intended for me to go there as my whole family is legacy.