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<p>Hell, you’ll be a better person.</p>
<p>hi, bbecker, checking in your excellent progress.</p>
<p>As for why suffering helps you become better at what you do, this is true for medicine or any other career. You’ll have the compassion of the heart to guide you. Someday, if you choose the path and you’re blessed, you’ll also have that compassion to make you a good Mom, too. Whatever you can’t work out these days with your own mom, you might have a second chance to do things somewhat differently with your own children someday. You’ll toss out the bad, keep the good, and find NEW good to offer.</p>
<p>For example, another young lady I know struggled with undiagnosed learning disabilities but it was diagnosed during college, at the urging of her friends. When she did, she was able to manage herself so much better. Two years later she announced her career path would be to teach remedial reading to young children, because she’d know their inner struggle and be able to understand, encourage and motivate them not be saying “rah rah you can do it” or “stop being lazy” but by recognizing how they felt inside when faced with things hard to learn. </p>
<p>Look at what a journey you’ve had in the past months! You’ve come SO far. And the present will be good, the future brighter now. You’ll have backtracks, as we all do, but you’ll be stronger and more able to handle them, too.</p>
<p>A hundred hugs and a thousand balloons to you!!</p>
<p>Thank you everyone for the motivation and concern, It’s great to have people rooting for me to get better! I hope experience with certain thing’s in life will make me a better person for the future because I have already experienced them and know what to do and not what to do. Questioning my child’s emotions will be one of them. I slept great even though I’m up now, But it’s ok. I went to sleep awfully early anyway. I certainly can’t wait for what life has in store for me! Possibly a new job! getting ready for college and god know what else! But now that I can look past the present day without so much sadness and look into the bright future without questioning myself of how I’m going to have the energy and motivation to do it. =] It’s a great feeling.</p>
<p>Hey,bbecker.</p>
<p>I’m checking in after a couple of days of being away, and it’s fabulous hearing of your progress! And the positive outlook is wonderful to read about. You’re learning to see negative comments from your mother as a reflection of her limited outlook and her own emtional issues rather than as a reflection of who you are and what you can be. That’s great.
Thanks so much for letting us know. This has made my day.</p>
<p>And THIS is College Confidential at its best.</p>
<p>It’s tuesday!! I started taking higher doses of my medication yesterday. I’m feeling fine =]. I had a job interview yesterday at circuit city and a second interview today and then today I get a background check and such and I should get a call back within the next few days. I’m so excited! I also found out that I got accepted to my first choice college today! decisions are out tomorrow but I found out today through the housing application. I’m very excited and happy about it, I called everyone and told them and ran to my mom’s room and made her get off the phone to tell her the good news! Thank you all for your support! haha Now I have to think about how Im going to come up with car insurance, tuti. deposit and housing deposits by the first. I hope everything is having a wonderful week!! thank you all!</p>
<p>Woot Woot! That is so awesome bbeck! Made even better by t he fac that you are feeling well enough to enjoy it!</p>
<p>Anytime you need a cheering squad, you toddle over here. We’re a raucous bunch and we have enough hope and ambition for you to fill a couple of fabulous lifetimes.</p>
<p>Great news!</p>
<p>Thank you so much!! =] yay!! I feel like I can run a marathon right now!</p>
<p>Hurray! So glad to hear that you are feeling better and enthusiastic about all that life is holding for you. Congratulations on the acceptance, and good luck on the job.</p>
<p>bbecker:</p>
<p>That is awesome! Congratulations on your college acceptance and three cheers for your continued progress in dealing with your health issues.</p>
<p>Ah, joy in the morning. Great to hear from you with such good news and good spirits, bbecker. I’m very happy for you, and I’m part of that cheering squad cheers mentioned. We are always here if you need us.</p>
<p>WOOOO HOOOOO, BB!!!</p>
<p>OMG, where to start!!! First of all, MAJOR congrats on getting into your first choice school!!! That is a supreme joy unto itself, made all the sweeter by all that you’ve been through. I couldn’t be any happier for you, sweetie. Incredibly AWESOME news! :)</p>
<p>And…it looks like this Circuit City job is going to come through for you too!!! WAY TO GO!!! I’m sure your interviews went so well because you are feeling so much better now. Being proactive and seeking treatment for your depression has already paid off in so many ways. You are truly an inspiration to all who are sitting on the fence, contemplating treatment but perhaps thinking that they can tackle this on their own. I am <em>SO, SO</em> proud of you! :)</p>
<p>I really hope that you can get all the deposits together for the first. Have you spoken to your mom about it? Now that it looks like you will be employed soon, I hope that if she is expecting you to catch all of these things, maybe she can front the money for you. If not, I would contact the school ASAP and perhaps ask them to waive the tuition deposit. My son’s school did that for him, and we didn’t even ASK!! They just sent him a letter saying that they were waiving it! 
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<p>Meanwhile, KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK!! Things are turning around for you, and I have a feeling that many, many more good things are in store for you soon!</p>
<p>love, ~berurah</p>
<p>Bbecker,</p>
<p>CONGRATULATIONS on your acceptance to your top choice school. (You’ll have to remind me what school that is.) I am proud of you and I hope your mom is too. </p>
<p>I’m keeping my fingers crossed for you on the Circuit City job. It sounds like it’s going to work out. </p>
<p>The best news is that you are feeling better. I am so glad that your treatment is working. I know that all of us are very pleased that you sound better each time you post. We are all rooting for you. I’m sending another cyber-hug your way.</p>
<p>Bbecker,
Congratulations on your first choice acceptance!! How wonderful to have that in your future to focus on. You should feel so proud of yourself. I hope your mom is proud as well.</p>
<p>It sounds like the Circuit City job is yours,that they are just finishing up the formalities. Congrats on that too!</p>
<p>I am so, so glad the medicines are working for you. As most of us here have said, you have shown such strength and courage in seeking out the help you need. If these characteristics show through when you are so down, you will be a force to reckon with when you are fully well.</p>
<p>I’m just catching up on this thread. Bbecker, I see you’ve been posting on other threads (and even starting some – how sweet to wish all the Ivy-waiters good luck!!). You are obviously feeling sooooooooo much better.</p>
<p>I said it before and I’ll say it again: You will never again be as depressed as you were two weeks ago.</p>
<p>I just got to my brothers house a few minutes ago. I hate being home, its like im not depressed but overwhelmly sad. soo…I got my acceptance letter today and I wanted to show her but when I took her about it and asked her if she wanted to see it she said “sure I wouldnt mind seeing it but I’m taking the car away because you didn’t come up with my money for your insurance” and don’t know what to do anymore, when I’m home I hate being there because she doesnt even carry a conversation with me like shes disgusted with me or something. I really feel like my mother is disgusted with me and she doesnt talk about anything but the stupid car insurance that I havent paid. I’m so over this, she hasnt even asked me If im doing better. She keeps making smart remarks about my depresison as if Im crazy or something. Shes holding it aganist me that I’m depressed and she doesnt do anything AT ALL to make me feel even alittle better. I know she has money issues but what I am suppose to do at this point? everytime i ask her sometihng she gets an attutide. I’m pulling every string possible to get a job ANYWHERE so she can stop making me feel like im worthless.</p>
<p>You’re NOT worthless. Just hang in there and I’m sure some job will become available.</p>
<p>For a thread that began with such bleakness, this is officially the feel-good thread of CC. BB, I want you to know that your steps toward the future are truly wondrous considering what you’ve been through. </p>
<p>Can you hear the roar of the CC cheering section? Keep that in mind when you dip into your darker moods.</p>
<p>Remember that’s your mom has her own issues. What they are, I certainly don’t know – maybe her life has been so crummy that it ticks her off to see you NOT depressed anymore. So she lashes out to make you feel bad again. </p>
<p>Go to your brother’s and stay out of your mom’s way for the short term. You will get a job very shortly. That will help with the money, give you a place to go everyday and a schedule, and keep you out of your mother’s way.</p>
<p>Just wait. It’s gonna get better still.</p>
<p>Hello everyone,</p>
<p>A brief update;
My mom is still cold hearted towards me but I’m over it. I got a job at a restaurant called “Pollo tropical” I don’t think they have them anywhere else besides Florida. I start today at 6, hope to do well and now the job search isn’t so stressful but I’m still looking for a different job. Thank you all for the cheers and congratulations =].</p>