Did any of you break up with someone you thought was "the one" only to find soomeone else as good oy

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<p>Yeah, more than once. Some people tend to look at the good side so they see each real relationship as potentially the one and others hold more back. </p>

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<p>Do not expect people to be “as good as” other people. But one relationship can be as satisfying as another. You need to remember that because a relationship is something you build, not something you find, and the raw materials are usually pretty rough. Expect imperfection. Go from there.</p>

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<p>So sorry you are hurting. Breakups are rarely easy and not fun. But yes, there will be another who will make your heart sing, and who will not blindside you and break it. Just wait- it will happen.</p>

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<p>I dated several wonderful people I could have married. There is no perfect one. Someone posted a song upthread. Here’s one that speaks to this specifically. It’s a bit corny, but the sentiment fits …</p>

<p><a href=“http://vimeo.com/17239912”>http://vimeo.com/17239912&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

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<p>I think I could have happily married either of the two men I met after HS that I had long term relationships with, as well as one or two of those I met after I started my career. Am still glad that I met H and married him, but there were many other great men out there that I got along well with and several I still have a good relationship with. I hope time eases the pain, as it has for most of us. Hopefully, in time you will see that there are many good matches still out there and find one that will “click” well with you.</p>

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<p>I dated the same girl for 11 years until she broke up with me. I was devastated. My wife was married to the guy she thought was the “man of her dreams” and then divorced within 2 years. </p>

<p>The bottom line is we met and were talking marriage within months. We got married exactly 1 yr later and have been happily married for almost a quarter century with 3 great kids. </p>

<p>That song about “unanswered prayers” comes to mind whenever I think about how lucky I was that she broke up with me!</p>

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<p>Tv4caster-- why did she end it after 11 years?</p>

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<p>We were living together but it turns out she found a guy at work that she liked better. I couldn’t have a better wife or life. It turned out to be a real blessing!</p>

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<p>Interesting and after 11 years there was no talk of marriage? I overheard a co-worker say he was single again because she was ‘getting clingy and talking marriage’. After 4 years he was not interested in marriage but she wanted more. Does one hold out, hoping the man will change his mind about marriage or end the relationship in order to find someone who will want to marry eventually?</p>

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<p>"Does one hold out, hoping the man will change his mind about marriage or end the relationship in order to find someone who will want to marry eventually? "</p>

<p>With us it was the other way around. I was ready to marry her at least 4 years before she left, but she kept saying she didn’t ever want to be married- “who needs a ring to prove their love”. 2 years later she married the guy from work. I’m not sure what ever happened to her. I kept in touch with her mom and sister for a few years (even took my wife to her house to visit), but eventually lost touch. </p>

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<p>Call me old-fashioned, but if someone doesn’t want to get married, it’s time to move on. TV4caster’s situation is one example. I have two friends (female) who dated someone for more than 10 years, waiting for the man to be “ready” to marry. In each case the marriage did eventually occur, and each marriage ended in divorce a few years later.</p>

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<p>@Youdon’tsay I thought of that song when I read the OP.</p>