Did I Do Something Rude?

College Life
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<p>I would like to get some girl’s opinions about what happened in class the other day. I don’t want to sound like a pervert or anything, but I noticed that my friend’s middle button on her blouse was unbuttoned and her bra was exposed. I’ve been friends with this girl for awhile, so I’m pretty comfortable talking with her. I didn’t want to embarass her during class, so after class I told her about her blouse. She was very embarassed and appreciated that I told her.</p>

<p>Was this a rude thing to do? I felt that it was the right thing to do and if I was a girl I would want somebody to tell me, but I was just curious what girl’s opinions are about this.</p>

<p>Would you feel weird if somebody you know told you or even somebody you don’t know told you? I am just curious what the etiquette is.</p>

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<p>Would you have wanted her to tell you if your fly was down? Because that’s really the same idea imo.</p>

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<p>I would. I would feel embarassed about it, but I wouldn’t think it’s rude.</p>

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<p>Using amarkov’s analogy, I would definitely appreciate it if someone let me know my fly was down. So no, it wasn’t rude.</p>

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<p>No, you did the right thing. It may have been embarrassing for her, yes, but it was probably less embarrassing than it would have been for her to get back to her dorm that night, look in the mirror, and reallize that the button had probably been open all day.</p>

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<p>Not rude at all. But if you really find it a problem, ask another girl to tell her that her shirt needs fixing next time (or any other girl). It makes it less awkward.</p>

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<p>No. I find it rude to not tell people. Eventually they’ll realize and be embarrassed and wonder why nobody said anything. I always tell people, even if I don’t know them that well, but I try to make a joke out of it.</p>

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<p>If she mentions it to you, be a gentleman and say… I have no recollection of what you are talking about…she will be relieved.</p>

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<p>It’s not rude at all. You did the right thing by telling her (as long as you were discreet about it).</p>

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<p>You think that’s awkward? One time, I was in an elevator with a (male) professor (I’m a girl) and i noticed his fly was open. We were about to walk into a lecture hall where he would be in front of like 400 students, so I was like, “Um, professor…” and he said, “Not right now, class is about to start, you can talk to me after.” And then I just said, “Your fly is open.” and stepped out of the elevator. </p>

<p>I think we both did the right thing :/</p>

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<p>it’s kind of minor. she probably won’t even remember this as long as you have.</p>

<p>i don’t think it’s rude. i’d rather have somebody tell me my fly is unzipped then have me walking around like that</p>

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<p>better you (her friend) than some creepy stranger</p>

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<p>If she said she appreciated you telling her, how could you have been rude? Did somebody else suggest you were being rude? Ignore them.</p>