<p>Sigh… I’ve worked for a company for about 8 years now - Not thrilled with it, but it has been rewarding financially, so I’d like to stick around for another few years til my kids finish college. Problem (for me, at least): Our director (married man, great family) is obviously “close” with our manager (single, 46 year old female). They travel together, giggle & carry on unprofessionally at times, like they’re infatuated teens. Neither have been doing their respective jobs well, dumping some of their responsibilities on the rest of us in the department, so morale is low. I think I probably know the answer to this, but do you think their behavior should be reported? It’s probably career suicide to even think about it, I imagine…</p>
<p>I wouldn’t…if it were me, I’d take advantage of their inattention to business to try to get MY work spotlighted to senior execs…but…even if you stand by and do absolutely nothing but ignore, eventually their house of cards will collapse. No way is the director going to compromise or leave his family for the 46 year old single manager…he’ll tire of her sooner or later - or - they’ll tire of each other - or - their bosses will notice and tire of the entire scenario.</p>
<p>Chances are higher ups are already aware…sit tight and see what happens…meanwhile, say absolutely nothing and keep your hands clean so that when it all falls apart (and it will), none of the debris gets on you…</p>
<p>I would be tempted to send the boss an anonymous note, saying that everyone knows what is going on and you think it is unfair you are doing his work while he has an affair…that’s it</p>
<p>Wise reply - Unfortunately, their “higher-ups” are all out of state. They don’t see/hear. Still, you’re right that the tide will likely turn. I’ll keep my head down so when it “hits the fan”, I won’t be in the spray (gross - sorry).</p>
<p>CGM, I don’t think sending anonymous notes is a good idea, mostly because there is absolutely no such thing as a guarantee of absolute secrecy. </p>
<p>What might be kinda fun is having a company function where spouses are invited - or - find very innocent ways to get the director’s wife involved in the office. </p>
<p>But really, it’s best to put as much space between yourself and these things as possible, because, they ALWAYS fall apart, and you don’t want to be caught in the, well, spray.</p>
<p>I think you should try to stay out of it as best you can unless their behavior is causing significant harm to the organization in one way or another. Directors and managers dump jobs on people all the time; some people just aren’t very good at handling their positions. Is flirting like this against company policies? Are in company romances against company policies? The fact that he’s married is not your business at all, and I would strongly advise you to stay out of that aspect of the situation. </p>
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This isn’t necessarily true. I don’t know whether these two people are just flirting for fun, having sex, or in some sort of relationship, but I don’t think you can fairly make these kinds of assumptions.</p>
<p>I think mature adults can pretty well read what is going on, what you do with that, well, is a different story, but come on…</p>
<p>Been there done that. Stay out of it. Let it unfold, crash and burn, or whatever on it’s own.</p>