Look at the number of students applying to those highly selective schools on your list. Look at the number of acceptances. Understand that most all of those students had sterling resumes and/or some strong hooks for acceptances. Schools want to have their sports teams , full up their majors, deal with development, alumni, have a diverse community in talents, interests, backgrounds, geographical.
When you apply to highly selective schools , your chances of acceptance are very smalll. In such cases most such applicants do not get into one of those schools and get into their match or safety schools. Those s hooks most likely to take you are the ones where you should have and should. R investing your thoughts, research , expectations and dreams because that’s where you were likely to get accepted. It’s like ignoring your checking account balance while buying lottery tickets and planning to spend the winnings.