<p>I actually find this story believable because I used to have a friend like this. Her transgressions were different but they were bizarre and out of the blue and just as egregious. Then she married someone who was a lot like she is. I’m so glad they are out of my life.</p>
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<li><p>Why didn’t you go to the post office and fill out the form to have your mail forwarded to your new address?</p></li>
<li><p>You need to let your contacts know your new address so they can update their records and send any future mail to your current address.</p></li>
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<p>PS–I’m not sure if I believe this story.</p>
<p>Another hard to believe and doesn’t really make a lot of sense post by first time poster.</p>
<p>Who starts an account on a forum to post a vague weird story that doesn’t make much sense?</p>
<p>Who forwards their mail while visiting a friend? Who gets substantial real mail these days anyways? Who gets mail that is not only worth strangers opening and keeping the envelops of, but also typing up the contents? And has this friend never heard of using a copier or scanner? Lol. And why would said friend tell you all of this? </p>
<p>This reminds me of a riddle. This empty but weird story sounds terrible because we fill in the blanks with assumptions because we have so little to go on. Yet the OP could come back, fill in the details and we’d view it entirely differently.</p>
<p>Bored children.</p>
<p>Does anyone else notice how quickly poster “newccuser” (who does not seem to post a lot)pounces on yet another “■■■■■” thread to point how “gullible” and “self-righteous” “senior citizens” (CC parents) are? ;)</p>
<p>Yup- noticed that BB. And also noticed that “newccuser” isn’t new. Just seems to “pop in” to be critical.</p>
<p>Newccuser- Hopefully you have settled into grad school-- in Canada IIRC, and feel comfortable posting with both the parents and students here. Welcome. We are not bad or ignorant people. Really.</p>
<p>I guess Im having a hard time believing this story because I cant figure out what important/secret type info is sent via USPS. And why someone expecting sensitive mail wouldnt have rented a box at the local PO for the summer weeks she was staying w/ the friend.</p>
<p>Completely unbelievable story. </p>
<p>As far as newccuser is concerned, amusingly, I realized that I was reading the sig as “new accuser” instead of “new CC user.” :D</p>
<p>Hi. I’m supposed to be working on a paper for class, but I thought I’d briefly respond a little already.</p>
<p>For one, J is not a kid, but is older than I. We’re both adults, over 25.</p>
<p>J has my social security number, bank account number, and a whole lot more.<br>
One letter that was opened without my permission was merely for my GRE scores (but I still would’ve preferred to have kept that to myself), another letter was from my bank, and another letter was a VERY private letter send to me with information that I really, really, did not want J to see. There might have been other letters, I’m not sure. </p>
<p>J does have some grudges against me, which is one of the reasons I’m so worried. Another reasons I’m so disturbed about the situation is that I’m a fairly private person. Some of the information J found out definitely could be used against me.</p>
<p>I’m not a ■■■■■. I have read topics on CC before without posting.
I could try to prove that this thread is legit, but how would you want me to do that?</p>
<p>I think your story might be true and I’d like to know why you are friends with this person. You say J has grudges against you, so this relationship has some baggage attached to it. Maybe at one time the friendship made sense but now there are grievances on both sides. J sounds conniving and sneaky. Maybe at this point the friendship isn’t worth it.</p>
<p>J has your bank account number. Close your account and open a new one. Does J have any credit card numbers? If so then cancel the cards and get new ones. Let J know that if your social security number is ever used and you can determine that J was the source of the leak then you will pursue legal action.</p>
<p>Who is J? Is J the friend you stayed with? The scenario is confusing to me. You had the mail forwarded to your friend’s house (J?) while you were visiting that friend, and then tried to get it sent back to your house? </p>
<p>At any rate, that is weird that J would open a lot of mail not addressed to him/her on purpose, (not an accident or misunderstanding, evidentally) and then, it is even more weird that he or she would want to know your bank account number or soc. sec. number and other such info. So many questions: Why? Did J say why? How did the confession that he/she was storing the info come about? What kind of relationship do you have with J? Did you know that he/she was a dicey person before this? </p>
<p>Sounds like a mess. Good luck to you with this.</p>
<p>Annie, for one thing, your post counts don’t show up because you are posting here in the Parent Cafe. I think those posts aren’t tabulated.</p>
<p>Next, your situation is quite a concern. J has things like a bank account and social security numbers? This situation is an invasion of privacy and quite honestly may require you to go to small claims court or to a lawyer to clear up. J should not have opened your mail in the first place and certainly has no right to record that information. I am actually surprised she/he admitted to doing this. Is she/he aware this was a federal offense? You really may need to have it on record that this was done, in case problems arise at some later date. In the least, I suggest you report this to the police who may have additional suggestions.</p>
<p>Okay I <em>clearly</em> have too much time on my hands. I think you aren’t telling us what’s really going on, which is why this problem you have sounds so bizarre and nonsensical. </p>
<p>On October 25th you wrote:</p>
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<p>I can’t help but wonder if you have something else going on that you aren’t explaining because both of these posts are about paperwork involving your identity. Methinks (from watching too many episodes of Criminal Minds perhaps :)), that you are up to something! </p>
<p>Are you maybe ‘the friend’ that has taken ahold of identity documents of someone (a notorized copy of a green card perhaps?) and you are trying to find out if you can get in trouble for doing so or for using it? </p>
<p>I just can’t quite put my finger on it. Anyone else want to guess?</p>
<p>Good sleuthing, starbright. The whole thing is just too weird for me.</p>
<p>Not sure you can do anything about the past except to make it clear to J that what s/he did was both unethical and illegal. In the future. Don’t share space with J. Get a post office box so that others can’t get at your mail and forwarding will be easy.</p>
<p>Annie, is/was your relationship w/ J something more than mere friendship?</p>
<p>“Let’s say you already turned the green card with your old name in, and now just have a green card in your new name, but you still have a notarized copy of your old green card (which hasn’t expired, but how valid is a notarized copy?).”</p>
<p>Can a permanent resident apply for a name change (other than her last name change due to marriage)? I do not think so. Once a green card holder’s petition for the US citizenship is approved, s/he is allowed to legally change her/his name. What is a “notarized copy” of an old green card? An expired green card is still a valid ID, but it is not a not a valid document for employment purposes or for the purpose of entering the US, no matter if it is “notarized” or not. I smell a rat.</p>
<p>Hi again.
I haven’t used a notarized copy of the green card. I was contemplating it though, for a while, but I’ve decided against it. I’ve decided to do the less iffy, more wholesome thing concerning that. That’s pretty much been resolved for me, I think.</p>
<p>In answer to another question, why J and I originally became friends, we met when we were both undergrad students. I’m shy and have a hard time forming friendships. I’d just finished my freshman year of college, and summer break was starting. By that time, I’d met various people, had acquaintances, but no close friends. I was really hoping to become close friends with SOMEONE, and not too many people were interested, or I didn’t know how to best go about it… Then J showed up. J didn’t fit in too well either, noticed me, and wanted us to become friends. Before too long we started hanging out a lot. We became really good friends, and yes, for a while that worked out well. The friendship continued after we’d both graduated too.</p>
<p>Eventually things soured though, when J wanted me to do certain things that I did not want to do and did not think were right for me to do. The friendship has been on a slippery slope ever since. I kept trying to keep the friendship going, but I’m beginning to think maybe I should back off at this point, at least a little, possibly a lot.</p>