<p>I just have to say “wow.”
And thank you to all the interviewers who have taken their time to spend with my 17 & 18 y/o’s in this very, very low risk/ high value activity.</p>
<p>I think this thread has run its course.</p>
<p>Once I put my kids in their colleges, they will be very secure. A few calls a day to check on them. I’ll have their schedules memorized so my calls don’t interupt their classes. Their profs and myself will have to email every so often so they can tell me how they’re doing. We are already connected through networking sites and webcam; I’ll know who they are socializing with. I have their passwords (which can readily be changed), so if either miss class or don’t answer my calls …</p>
<p>Oh this is the funniest thing I have seen in days! must be a ■■■■■.</p>
<p>funny in a scary way. Sort of like the strange and startling pictures in the I’ll love you forever book…</p>
<p>“Having people expose themselves in the public library, the bus, the subway, the street, etc., seems to be a childhood and/or adolescent experience common to just about every woman of my generation I know who grew up in New York City.”</p>
<p>Funny, it happened to me in broad daylight on a path in Golden Gate Park in San Francisco.</p>
<p>They usually aren’t dangerous, but it will ruin your day for sure.</p>
<p>There was a seriously disturbed woman who seemed to continually ride the bus route in Dallas when I was a kid in the late 1950s and early 1960s. Lets just day that she “put on a show.” </p>
<p>In 2005 when my S and I went to visit Berkeley, there was a similar event with a homeless woman on the BART although it also included fairly menancing behavior.</p>
<p>I guess there are smaller cities and places where the public library is a pastoral safe haven, but not in my city, Dallas.</p>
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<p>We had a male freshman student in my dorm at Emory in 1968 whose parents called him at least twice everyday (on the dorm payphone). They were making sure that he was studying and not wasting their money. When we returned from Winter Break we were informed that he had appeared to be slow to leave for the break and the clean up service found him dead hanging in his dorm room the morning after the dorms officially closed.</p>
<p>I always cringe when I hear someone say they just love their kids to death.</p>
<p>OK… while I have an appreciation for the story, this cannot be the last word on this thread (despite it’s running it’s course for sure). So disturbing. Can you imagine if he had had a cell phone and text messaging? Egads. I barely know what classes my kid is registered for second semester let alone who the professor might be! And our library is pretty good venue for research and studying, but not so much for an interview.</p>
<p>Just to clarify my post: it was aimed at some posts that have now been removed in which one poster claimed to have been harassed by a chimpanzee and went on to liken Ivy interviewers to chimps. I have no wish to shut anyone up.</p>
<p>I suggest that we all listen to Feist’s first album: [Let It Die](<a href=“http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/images/B0001EKZZU/sr=1-3/qid=1265303749/ref=dp_image_0?ie=UTF8&n=5174&s=music&qid=1265303749&sr=1-3”>http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/images/B0001EKZZU/sr=1-3/qid=1265303749/ref=dp_image_0?ie=UTF8&n=5174&s=music&qid=1265303749&sr=1-3</a>)</p>
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<p>This <em>has</em> to be a joke. No real person could possibly be that clueless. News bulletin: no college professor will either want to communicate with you directly, or be obligated to do so. Period. This isn’t high school. If you don’t trust your children enough to treat them like at least semi-adults, don’t send them off to college. What’s next, mandatory telephone calls three times a day from their honeymoons after they get married?</p>
<p>And if you really think you can effectively prevent your kids from using their college email accounts, or from creating a private facebook account you don’t know about, you’re not only clueless but naive.</p>
<p>I don’t think I’ve ever spoken this harshly to any other member (outside the election and politics forum), but this is so horrifying and beyond the pale that I had to say something.</p>
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<p>Wow. Now I’m a creep and my alma mater is a breeding ground for more creeps like me. I guess I should call them and cancel the THIRTEEN interviews I’ve conducted on behalf of them this year (14 last year) since I’m obviously a degenerate predator on nubile young uns. Gasp! A handful were done at my dining room table! Creep alert! Creep alert!</p>
<p>Sheesh. Very very sad. My fingers are crossed that this person is only a ■■■■■ and doesn’t actually believe such things, much less voice them publicly.</p>
<p>I guess if I interviewed this poster’s kids, their crossing my alma mater off the list would be a benefit to the other applicants – one less kid to compete against.</p>
<p>“Once I put my kids in their colleges, they will be very secure. A few calls a day to check on them. I’ll have their schedules memorized so my calls don’t interupt their classes. Their profs and myself will have to email every so often so they can tell me how they’re doing. We are already connected through networking sites and webcam; I’ll know who they are socializing with. I have their passwords (which can readily be changed), so if either miss class or don’t answer my calls … goodbye myspace, facebook, email, everything. We sat on the couch to discuss this. My kids get that you can move across the country from us but the rules never change. Period.”</p>
<p>■■■■■. Check their back posts.</p>
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<p>Or comedian. Someone’s trying to audition for a spot as a writer on the Tonight Show with Jay “Big-Jaw” Leno. :)</p>
<p>This is an example of logical “risk assessment” from an article today about a man who was killed by sharks off the Florida coast:</p>
<p><<Though he acknowledges that every fatal shark attack is a tragedy, Collier said shark attacks, while always sensational, should not worry avid swimmers and surfers.</p>
<p>“I would be more concerned about my drive to the beach, or stepping on a bottle on the shore, than my interaction with a shark,” he said.>></p>
<p>I wish more people understood that concept. And with that, I would say this thread has “jumped the shark.” (Sorry.)</p>
<p>^^^ On that subject and though I know this thread has run its course, I thought that some of you who’ve been following it might be interested in this Time article from several years ago, Why We Worry About the Wrong Things, The Psychology of Risk by Jeffrey Kluger. Some interesting stuff as relevant to this thread, especially regarding the “dread” factor, the concept of “probability neglect” and the evolutionary and biological basis of fear. </p>
<p>[How</a> Americans Are Living Dangerously - TIME](<a href=“http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,1562978,00.html]How”>http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,1562978,00.html)</p>
<p>Shucks. I missed chimpanzee analogies?</p>
<p>I had 2 experiences when young with someone revealing appendages I did not care to see. The first was a guy who parked his car along the road where we walked to go to elementary school. Told my mother who told the principal who told the police who caught the perv. The second time I was in either jr HS or HS. A guy drove down the street, stopped and asked me for directions. When I realized what he was <em>really</em> doing, I exclaimed (without skipping a beat) “Oh my- that looks terrible! Have you seen a doctor about that? Something is definitely wrong!” He looked embarassed and drove off!</p>
<p>I know someone who claims that when that happened to her she pointed at it and said, “Oh look, just like a p****, only smaller!”</p>
<p>S has an alum interview scheduled & we live in a small rural town. The person conducting the interview suggested our local library (1 mile from our house). This young women through several contacts with my son, both email and phone, seemed to stress the importance of holding the interview at my son’s convenience. (Not hers!) In one email she noted that he was a high school senior & she remembered how she felt during this college application process. I thought that was a kind, considerate remark.</p>
<p>"This young women through several contacts with my son, both email and phone, seemed to stress the importance of holding the interview at my son’s convenience. (Not hers!) "</p>
<p>That was kind. Still, realize that if she’s young, she probably doesn’t have responsibilities like kids or an elderly parent to take care of in addition to a job. Since it’s a small town, she also may not have several other applicants whom she has to interview, too.</p>
<p>I think that most interviewers will be considerate enough to not say, “This is the time: Take it or leave it.” But interviewers’ flexibility will depend on their own schedules, too.</p>
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<p>Now, that’s the kind of attitude I want to instill in my D!</p>