<p>All of this happened within the last half-hour, and I just wanted to get some advice on whether or not I have the right to be mad. </p>
<p>So this summer I am interning through a program called Project SEED. Normally people are set up with the program within the city, but I was a special case and was allowed to do research with a local university instead of commuting to the city each day. While this is convenient for saving money on gas, I havent had the opportunity to form relationships with the other people in the program. One of the big things that the coordinator pushes is forming relationships with others so that you can network with people in the future. </p>
<p>Anyways, the coordinator (we’ll call him Sam) called me today and asked if my mom and I wanted to meet him for dinner tis evening to catch up on how my project has been going and also to give me the check for my stipend that I have desperately needed for 2 weeks now. Sam specifically asked if my mom would come with. So when I asked my mom if she would go, she immediately groaned and said it was her day off and she didn’t want to do anything today. </p>
<p>What really ****es me off is that I’ve talked to her about how disconnected I feel from the others because I’m not commuting to the city, and she even made remarks that I got “jipped” by being set up at the local university (there have been some problems there also, but that’s for another time). So if she feels then way, then it doesn’t make sense to me why she would so adamantly be against going to dinner tonight. We then got into an argument and she said was not going to go because she didn’t want to have to curl her hair and do her makeup. Needless to say I had to call Sam back and cancel. We couldn’t reschedule because he is going out of town, and I will once again have to wait for the check. </p>
<p>So is it right for me to be mad at my mom right now? I explained to her that it is important for me to get to know the coordinators in the program because it can help me later in life, yet she doesn’t seem to care.</p>
<p>A <em>college</em> program…and a <em>college</em> student…</p>
<p>Then the guy specifically asks to go out to <em>dinner</em> to discuss the project…</p>
<p>And he requires that the Mom come along to the dinner if you guys are going to have the discussion…</p>
<p>Yeah…nothing suspicious here…</p>
<p>I don’t blame her.</p>
<p>I disagree with the previous poster. Even though she clearly didn’t want to go to the dinner, her reasoning was because she didn’t want to get ready. If she felt that the situation was sketchy then she should’ve said that was why she refused to go. OP, I think you do have a right to be frustrated. Your mom should be supportive of such an opportunity rather than contradicting herself & making lame excuses.</p>
<p>@GoalsOriented: I’m actually a high school student in a high school program. The coordinator thinks it is a good idea to have the students’ parents involved. And it’s not like he is worrying about looking like a pedophile or something. He just wants to get to know the people in the program I guess. </p>
<p>I’ve just come to the conclusion that my mom will never really support me in the things that I do. She just doesn’t realize the things that are important to me, and no matter how much I try and explain it to her she doesn’t get it.</p>
<p>I did project SEED too in my area! It’s surprising how not many people know about it. My mentor never asked to see my parents thouugh but it’s important that you make a strong relationships with him and others in the lab (which I did and got an amazing rec letter).I learned so much! Maybe your mom is tired, which is understandable if she works a lot. Just try to explain how important this is to you ??</p>
<p>It wasn’t my mentor but the coordinator for the entire program who wanted to meet with my mom and I. Obviously this was a good opportunity to make connections but it’s too late now. </p>
<p>I guess I’m just especially annoyed with this situation because it’s always an uphill battle with her. To be accepted into seed there were two mandatory orientations we both had to go to, and both times she complained about it the whole time. It’s just discouraging to be around people like that, but it’s so hard to be mad at her because I know she just doesn’t get it. I mean, she’s worked at Walmart for the past 24 years. What can I expect? </p>
<p>I’m just looking forward to the point in life where I don’t need my parents for everything I do!</p>
<p>I understand you’re mad but our parents do what they can to make ends meet. You should talk to her how important going to college is for you and that she should try to support you?</p>
<p>In the meantime, tell Sam to spend the $0.44 and mail you the check.</p>