<p>I am 19 years old and from the day i was born… i have been poor cause my dad didint want to work.Although my parents love me, i mean the little things they do for me for example buying me books or stuff i mean any thing, any little thing, they brag about it for almost about a year or two.They have never done anything good for me,I mean i am 19 now and studying in a community college for electrical engg. and my dad tells me to work part time and support the family and help my dad to support my family.But i hate him for asking me for working and supporting family…as studies are very difficult for engineering and if i start working i dont think i will get good grades so that i transfer into a UC
I dunno everything …makes me so angry and makes me frustrated coz of this…i mean i have started dislikeing my parents … and well i dnt ask from them anything i dnt use their stuff …i dnt talk to them…</p>
<p>is it normal? what should i do? am i bad?</p>
<p>PS: i live under their roof, but if i leave the home, i cannot do anything.I wont have any money for my community college,i cant even have a loan as i dnt have nay assests or something…</p>
<p>I don’t think it’s too much for your dad to ask you to help the family out, especially since your still living with them. That said, it seems as though your parents weren’t, or aren’t always there for you. I can only imagine the amount of stress from bearing the burden of keeping up with elec.eng. studies/parents/fin. issues. It seems only normal for you to feel this way. You’re def. not a bad person, though! I’m no parent, but I wish you luck in your studies and relationships with your parents! There always seems to be brighter ends.</p>
<p>but … there were a lot fights between my dad and my mom from the day i was born… so u can imagine… my dad doesn’t talk to me,i dont talk to my parents and i dnt talk to my brother… coz he is like a mommas child… i mean he barks out every single thing to her… and plus my mom and him they laugh together and enjoy together…its not that i am jealous but sometimes it gets u when u dnt get anything for ur bday or stuff but he gets everything for instance a psp,a ps3… lol …and yesterday she told me … u wil be a looser and i guarantee you that, u wont be an engineer so it just gets me into my mind! thats it.i guess i live as an outcast in my family and somehow i feel or prefer to be one</p>
<p>Hmmm… lemme think…okay well yea…after thinking for 2 minutes or so… i think that she likes him more or whatever coz of the fact he is more closer to her( coz i guess he has no social life so he spends almost all of his time with her) for instance, he goes around with her for shopping…umm like whenever she needs to go to a doctor or so, he accompanies her, watches movies with her(u knw he is like that mommas boy with no social life) … but the thing is come on he is in 10th grade… i am in college first year and that engineering…so i have a loads of stuff to do… rather than just doin all the stuff he does.But whatever i really don’t know what to do! i guess i jsut want to use my parents resources as less as i can… and tehn after i become an engineer and start earning, i will earn money and give almost half of my paycheck to them, so that they feel shamefull and stuff…and i am sure i will do that</p>
<p>to answer your question. your parents suck, not you. take (but do not take to heart) your father’s hypocritical remarks, work hard, do well and start your own life as soon as you can. your hard work will allow you to do much better than your parents. remember that.</p>
so it just gets me into my mind! thats it.i guess i live as an outcast in my family and somehow i feel or prefer to be one</p>