<p>*"It depends what you mean by “opposite.” “I believe unresolved patterns attract,” says Paul Cutright, author of You’re Never Upset for the Reason You Think. Cutright, along with his wife Layne, run the Center for Enlightened Partnerships in Las Vegas. “What most people call falling in love is really falling in pattern,” he says. “Relationships are about getting our own needs met, often on an unconscious basis. In other words, we try to find someone who is complementary to us and can help us learn, heal, and grow.” *</p>
<p>no, i thought it would be a good idea to date my opposite. at 3:15 i asked him if he wanted to be bf/gf, and he said okay. 4 hours after a lot of passionate kissing, he says we should just be friends. can anyone say USED???I’m used to short relationships, but this takes the cake.</p>
<p>Opposites do not attract except in physics. Love is NOT physics.</p>
<p>So this one time I was at another school for an activity. A girl who was pretty much the antithesis of me was really interested in me. Now I knew right away things wouldn’t work out…even though we had some common ground our ideologies and ways of thinking were different.</p>
<p>A year and a half later I was at an amusement park with some of my buddies. Some girl walks up to me and tells me I’m cute. I talked with this young lady for a bit and found her to also be a polar opposite of me, much like the first one.</p>
<p>In both cases we remained in contact via AIM for a while and then communication broke off when I changed my screen name two years ago.</p>
<p>There was another girl who was a lot like me during my freshman year in high school. We were good friends. As she became a sophomore she started to change and drifted away from my “personal platform”. Because of this our friendship grew weaker each year. This happened with some guys I know too.</p>
<p>Before we continue, let me say that I am probably the most consistent person I know of as far as not changing. I’m practically the same guy I was five years ago except I now have a high school diploma, a drivers license (plus a car, but one that I knew since I was two), and can vote (though I followed politics since kindergarten). Really, those are just things you get with age. My interests are the same, my personality hasn’t changed, my jokes are still dumb, I still go for the same kind of girls, I dress exactly the same, etc. They don’t call me “The Rock” for fun, and definitely not because of my wrestling skills (baseball is my sport).</p>
<p>Back to my story about relationships. I became close with some younger girls as my years in high school progressed. They shared a lot of my beliefs. One was practically a clone of me as far as thinking and whatnot was concerned. At times it was easier to talk to people like these girls than it was to talk to some of my guy friends, who tended to fluctuate as far as personality went according to who they were dating at the time. None of these girls ever went on a date with me; I instead was more the “big brother” figure to them.</p>
<p>However, you can see from this that the ones who I had great relationships with were the ones who were like me. Forget physics here…it’s one time where the laws are violated.</p>
<p>I think perhaps in the very beginning opposites may attract, at least on a more superficial level. When I met my now boyfriend three years ago I considered us complete polor opposites. But in those years quite a bit changed and when we got together, I came to realize we were very very similar. We enjoy the same things, want to do the same things later in life, its crazy. And I thought we were complete opposites. I think that being close to each other really helps make a relationship work. You need something common to talk about or enjoy, well at least it helps. I’ve dated people my opposite, but I prefer ones that are closer to me.</p>
<p>in psychology class we learned that it’s actually not true.</p>
<p>but then, what IS “opposite”? I would say that people who are opposite who complement and complete each other do attract. Such as one is a good cook and the other one is completely incapable. When it comes to values, on the other hand, opposite tend not to work well. Such as one is pro-life the other pro-choice, or one believes in free love while the other wants fidelity, etc.</p>
<p>I have to agree with scarletleavy. In the beginning, opposites can attract. Both physically and nonphysically, just because we as humans are curious and want to see what its like being with an “opposite”. But later on it just starts becoming a chore trying to find things in common to talk about, do, relate about, etc.</p>
<p>So i guess my last words are: yes, in the beginning, but no, not later. :)</p>
<p>I would rather have a like-minded love interest. Opposites smell disaster. I sense that one of us would have to submit to each other’s personality for the sake of the relationship or live in constant turmoil.</p>
<p>Also from a biological standpoint, you’ll look for a “mate” so to speak that has characteristics you don’t to make up for your faults and so you can raise a child well together. That said, completely opposite viewpoints make a relationship impossible…certain differences can’t be overlooked.</p>
<p>Let’s not forget that 50% of marriages end in divorce nowadays, so people really don’t know who they want/love.</p>