I understand what you are talking about @SarahM456 i wonder if there is some sort of mentorship program you can get into at your school? Something where an older student helps you navigate what’s appropriate for college. I had a good friend in college who was first generation and she needed help understanding what was normal. No shame for you, you were just asking.
Yes, you should be completing every single homework assignment all the time, on time. You say other kids seem better able to get things done and that is absolutely possible. Lots of kids come into college more prepared than others. Kids who had an immense work load in highschool have already figured this out. Maybe look at your day and figure out where you’re wasting time. Make yourself a schedule. Break things down into small chunks. Achievable goals. Like the tiny assignments, do them in the five minutes right after class so it becomes a habit. Things like that. And importantly, assume positive intent from your professors. It is their job to make sure you are doing their best. Be grateful you have such great teachers, there’s nothing nefarious going on there!!
And few free to ask questions here. Good luck!