Back a few responses back there was the question of how did you know/confusion? When the initial diagnosis caein Mr. Who told us/asked questions about meds, chemo and choices. I answered. A few months later we received the good news that he was feeling fine and he was on the watch list. Then I saw him at the onch’s office.
Our families have know each other for 10 years…knew of each other for two more years.
@bevhills I am having a bit of trouble understanding if you are positive this gentleman is indeed in a more serious state of health. Just because you saw him at the doctor’s office, or that he is having infusions, doesn’t mean his health has declined. There are infusions that are not chemo that he could be receiving, and people without current cancer diagnosis go to the oncologist. I still go once a year, although my breast cancer was 25 years ago. I also go for another issue that has nothing to do with cancer as the same doctors are hematologists and deal with other illnesses.
I would suggest you make sure you know for sure before speaking to your daughter. If you are friendly with your daughter’s boyfriend’s father, how about talking to him and see what his son knows before spilling the beans yourself? My daughter would be devastated if someone told her I was sick again and she had not heard that directly from my husband or myself. Even after 25 years, when I tell her we need to talk about something, she immediately asks what is wrong with me. She was 5 when I found out I had cancer, but there is still where her mind goes. I also think if you do talk to your daughter, she will go to her boyfriend and tell him what you said. I don’t think you want to be in the middle of what might be the father’s intentions.
@bevhills You said the groom’s family spoke to you about the worsening condition and change in treatment. What do you think they wanted you to do with that knowledge?
Our children began dating12 years ago. We met2 years after the kids starting dating. I was diagnosed 11years ago. Nine or 10 years ago he was diagnosed. Boyfriend’a father had questions about treatments at that time. That treatment was successful in that boyfriend’s father was told that he could “live with” this cancer. until he can’t. No one hangs out in treatment rooms. No one we know are going through treatment.
BTW: I may have mistypted…the kids are not engaged yet. Boyfriend is still the boyfriend…not the groom.