<p>We have shared email passwords in the past, but I don’t think I know his now. I have read his emails before, and he has read mine, but it’s not like a daily thing. We honestly don’t have much to keep from each other, and our lives are well…kind of boring! LOL…No big deal. </p>
<p>It’s whatever works for them. And it’s nobody’s business. If I objected to his reading it, I just wouldn’t send her email. Just know that it sounds like they have the type of relationship that whatever you tell her he knows. If you can live with that, then you’re golden.</p>
<p>I decided, when I got married, that I just wouldn’t speak things that I would not share with my husband. I broke that code ONE time…and guess what? I got BURNED. I vented to the wrong person about some frustrations I had and it got back to him VERY quickly. He was so hurt…and then, as a result, so was I. So now, if I have frustrations, I stuff them until I’m ready to talk to HIM about it. He’s the only one that needs to hear it anyway. There’s nothing I say (or type) that he can’t know about. ;)</p>
<p>like eastcoascrazy DH and I only have one email which we have shared for years. We also have a landline and two joint checking accounts, old fashioned I guess. I also just started texting last year because of DS, DH won’t text.</p>
<p>My email is the general family one and hubby has his own. However, he is not computer proficient and has literacy issues so I read his, although he rarely gets any.</p>
<p>I keep my husband’s confidences, but I also keep my friends’. He doesn’t need to know about the lump in my friend’s breast and she does need someone to talk to.</p>
<p>My hubby is welcome to read my e-mail if he likes, but I’m afraid he’d find it boring since most of my e-mails come from him (communicating during the work day) and AARP. :)</p>
<p>We don’t read each others emails - I think I know or could figure out his password, he has three or four, and I think he knows mine. We forward each other stuff that pertains to both of us. He uses his work email for everything so it would be a lot of trouble to wade through for anything of interest to me! I don’t have any secrets and don’t think he does either.</p>
<p>I often asked my wife to read my personal (i.e., mostly useless) emails and then she would tell me anything she thinks I need to know. Otherwise, the emails in my email box would not be read in ages, if ever.</p>
<p>After reading zillions of emails at work, the last thing I want to do after I get home is to read my personal emails.</p>
<p>I rarely read my wife’s email. But she shared her password with me anyway.</p>
<p>This has something to do with the fact that she has a couple of friends whose emails she needs to reply, while I am such a loner that I really do not have many friends whose emails I need to reply.</p>
<p>Our child knows the passwords to all of our personal email accounts, amazon accounts, banking account (essentially, everything – but I doubt he remembers even 20 percents of these) but we respectfully do not want his email account. Heck, we are not even “friends” of his Facebook account. (We do not like to use facebook anyway.)</p>
<p>1 e-mail addy for wife and I…we read each others, no biggie. No one is sending either of us info that the other shouldn’t see. The phone is for private conversations, not e-mail.</p>
<p>I know several couples who share a joint facebook account, but no one who shares an email address or reads their spouse’s email. DH and I will forward one another emails we think are of interest but otherwise it’s two separate worlds.</p>
<p>Which is pretty much how we do our banking. After 25 years, we now can access one another’s accounts, but we still don’t have a joint checking account.</p>
<p>I’m surprised that no one seems to think that it’s inappropriate for him to answer personal e-mails that I send to her. My husband thinks it’s weird.</p>
<p>SLUMOM - you are supposed to set up an alternate secret private email address for that.</p>
<p>My wife couldn’t handle my email. She couldn’t get through the mass of ebay saved searches, bank alerts, daily account reports, and tons of spam spam spam to find anything at all meaningful. I occasionally read her emails. She doesn’t mind.</p>
<p>If I were you, aquamarinesea, I’d stop sending emails to your friend that say anything more than “Call me later.” or “Can you meet me for lunch tomorrow?” The private conversations need to be face to face or over a phone, since neither your friend nor her husband seem to have an issue with him reading her emails. It doesn’t really matter whether you or your husband or all of CC think it is weird.</p>
<p>Last time I read my H’s email, found one from his “girlfriend” talking about the amenities in the apartment building they were looking at moving into! Needless to say, he is my ex-H now. </p>
<p>That said, I would not generally share my email account with an H if I had new one, nor would I expect him to share mine. If we have something the other person wants/needs to see, it can be forwarded. Of course, that is assuming a trustworthy H…</p>
<p>Aquamarinesea. I do think it is inappropriate for him to not only read but to answer what is obviously personal mail. Sometimes, my friends and I do not have time to pick up the phone and chat and we might do some minor venting over email. I would be angry if anyone else were looking at this. It is just as if someone were eavesdropping on a phone call. </p>
<p>I do know some couples who tell each other everything. I usually do not have the same kind of friendship with these people. One always needs a good friend one can vent to or seek advice from without fear that they would run off and tell. I don’t get that at all but that is me.</p>
<p>Aquamarinesea, maybe your friend and her husband view both their emails as joint emails, sort of like the home phone. If someone calls, it doesn’t matter who picks up the phone. If the question or issue can be answered by either one of them, they feel it is okay to do so. </p>
<p>You don’t really know what’s going on. Maybe the wife is overly generous and receives a lot of e-mails requesting money for this and that. She has a difficult time turning down people so he is the one saying no for her.</p>
LOL…No big deal. </p>