<p>I just had an interesting conversation with a friend who says she acts exactly the same way at home “behind closed doors” as she does when she is out among family and friends.</p>
<p>I think that we all have our “at home” personalities, where we tend to show more of our shortcomings, and our “outside” personalities where we attempt to present our best self.</p>
<p>What do you think? I am interested to hear other takes on this situation…</p>
<p>I try to be authentic, I am reserved and protective , so don’t show my goofy side as much. People are surprised that I can be quite funny. My H and I do not talk about our income, so people are also surprised , and often underestimate us. We don’t care because we don’t pick our friends or judge others based on that . Sadly we are aware others do. I do say what I think which gets me trouble. But with me what you see is what you get. So I guess the short answer is if you know us we are pretty much the same. Like to keep it real.</p>
<p>I’m always somewhat shocked when I hear from other people about how helpful or diligent or hard-working or polite or respectful my kids are.</p>
<p>Because they sure don’t show these traits at home all that often. ;)</p>
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I like to think I’m pretty much the same at home, at work, with friends, etc. With one big caveat … </p>
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I think there are conversations that should not be held in public … discussing anger, criticizing, etc … I believe those conversations should happen at home. Don’t get me wrong we held our standards of behavior from our kids in public (one nickname I have as coach is “grumpy old coach”) … however one on one personal conversations do not happen in public … the motivation is not so we present our “better self” but out of respect for the other person in the conversation.</p>
<p>We are definitely the same people. However, there are some topics/subject matter that we would not be as forthcoming on in public. It’s not a matter of trying to impress, rather trying NOT to offend.</p>
<p>I will agree that my kids were better behaved and more respectiful in public than at home which is the way I think it should be. They should feel more comfortable at home to occasionally be cranky and casual. My husband used to say to the kids “restaurant rules” which meant use your best manners. It got to be a joke because he’d say it at other people’s homes and occasionally at our house.</p>
<p>I’m guessing I’m also more inclined to be more observant of other people’s feelings and of being polite outside our house. Not to say I’m rude to my kids, but I am more comfortable in my own home to express my feelings.</p>
<p>That doesn’t make us different people. It just makes us a little more comfortable to be ourselves at home</p>
<p>*Do you and your kids act same way at home as in public?
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<p>God, I hope not. ;)</p>
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<p>She has sex in public?</p>
<p>When the kids were younger and I’d have to round them up, I’d call out in a harmonious voice, “oh beautiful Classof2015 children”. Like in a kind of soft yodeling tone. Did I sound like that inside our house? No-o-o…</p>
<p>My kids were of the better behaved outside the home school - I think there’s less difference now, but who knows! I was always surprised how many teachers would comment what a great sense of humor my oldest has. He’s very reserved so it was nice to know they saw that side of him.</p>
<p>Add me to the list of those with kids who acted better in public or with friends’ families, at school, etc. Until recently, that is. Now that they are finishing college, they are delightfully improved. (There is hope.)</p>
<p>As for me, I am the same, I think, with friends and family as in private- which is waaay more laid back that I seem on CC.</p>
<p>No, I try not to fart or scratch my ***** in public.</p>
<p>My DS2 gives me a lot more hugs and cuddles in private than in public. </p>
<p>DS1 is, in general, more polite in public. </p>
<p>While there are activities reserved for the home, I think I’m pretty much the same person both places.</p>
<p>Ditto #7–my first thought when I saw thread title.</p>
<p>I’ve been at parent/teacher conferences and was certain that the teacher was talking about someone else’s kid. </p>
<p>“Street angels, house devils,” as my mom used to say. Better that than the other way around.</p>
<p>90% of what passes for sanity is just “faking it in public,” imo.</p>
<p>Sometimes we say teasing things that would sound really mean to someone outside the family–I’ll refer to my younger kids as Brats, older S’s nickname for one of his sisters is, “The Bad One.” One sister will habitually say to another, “Shut up–nobody likes you!” etc.</p>
<p>We certainly look like the perfect family in our Xmas card photos. ;)</p>
<p>If I used the same language in public that I do at home, I would probably be arrested…although I think court cases have upheld the right to speak Carlin’s 7 words. It would certainly shock a lot of people though.</p>
<p>My parents and I act pretty much exactly the same in public as in private. Honestly, I’m just too lazy to put on a front. What you see is what you get. Ever since my dad’s head injury especially, he has absolutely no filter. Luckily, he’s a good person but if it’s on his mind, it’s coming out.</p>
<p>My sister, OTOH, is a complete brat (to put it nicely) in private but sweet as could be in public. The fakeness bothers me so much -.-</p>
<p>I wear a bra in public…</p>
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The benefits of living in an all women household :D</p>
<p>In my family, the only thing that changes when we go out is our filter. In public, we watch what we say to be polite and whatnot. At home, we just say whatever is on our minds. Our manners don’t change. We don’t really act different.</p>