<p>One thing the OP should remember…she can do all the research and help her daughter with this process. However, that is NO guarantee the daughter will actually TAKE those BC pills regularly.</p>
<p>I think the OP picked up her ball and went home after being told by almost everyone that she was wrong. I disagree, cpt-I don’t think a parent has any business doing research and laying out suggestions to a 20 who has not asked for help for something that they most likely consider very private. But I would say the same for any issue a kid that age has on their plate. Who wants to be the busy-body parent sending virtual clippings and resources that were unsolicited? That says to me, “I don’t think you’re smart enough to figure this out on your own,” or “I feel this way and by gosh you need to change your way of thinking, so here’s proof that I am right.”</p>
<p>My father was a pharmacist so when it came time to want birth control, I did ask for his advice. My older D asked me just last week for my opinion on birth control options, and I offered them. But I would not be sending her links and opinions on why I am right. Not unasked.</p>
<p>I am almost positive that the health care provider at student health center or at Planned Parenthood would tell any young woman what the success rates are for the various forms of birth control. From the PP website:
<a href=“Birth Control Methods & Options | Types of Birth Control”>http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control/birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm</a></p>
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<p>I tend to agree with this statement. What I would hope is that I’ve been open and honest enough as the kids were growing up that they would ask…if they needed help. But in general, I’m a huge supporter of Planned Parenthood and would have no qualms about telling a young person to go there for help or advice. The OP “could” have said to the D, “if you are going to have sex with your boyfriend, do me a favor and make sure you are both using contraceptives. If you need help or advice I’m here”…but it sounds like this is not a mother who may not have been that open with her D as the D was growing up. Chances are the D has gleaned much along the way, but it would be worrisome no doubt. Hindsight is one of those things…</p>
<p>I agree with Cptofthehouse. I mean it seems lot CC parents are really involved in their kids college education. Laying out what to take when and some even have access to their email accounts, online grades and check to see how they are doing as the semester progresses. Others like me are suggesting to our kids about where to apply for internships, co-ops or jobs … Do those kids really ask for all that advice? I doubt it.</p>
<p>I wouldn’t recommend talking to the boy,make her go to the doctor, or looking at her texts any more. But I don’t see how giving her information and where she could go to talk to someone is being too involved. </p>
<p>It’s not. But, the mom seems to be under the impression that her 20 year old daughter thinks a sleepover with a boy means movies and cake. No-one is that naïve. Also, Planned Parenthood or the student health center at school or a Dr’s office are not secrets that some 20-year old needs to be told about by mom. They know. </p>
<p>Okay, I only read a few pages of this thread and I would say it is a 99% probability that the OP is making this up. It is obvious to me he is playing games with everyone on this thread.</p>
<p>I have known moms like that. Especially if they didn’t grow up in the U.S. or western Europe or another western-style country, they just don’t have the same social cues that those of us who grew up here had.</p>
<p>Mind you, things are somewhat different now than they were when dinosaurs roamed the earth and I started college, but by the time I graduated…</p>
<p>No, i don’t think the OP is playing games. I suspect the post is true and the mother is concerned and worried, perhaps because she envisioned her daughter living a life very much like her own. And no, I don’t think a lot of CC parents are involved that closely with their kids college days. I cared very much about launching my kids in high school and assisting them in finding a good college situation, but it’s over. I don’t access their records or their e-mail and I trust them when they answer the question “how are you doing this semester.” I certainly have zero interest in helping them secure internships, getting those internships is the only way they will learn how to get a job. </p>
<p>I do think the mom can tell the daughter to go to planned parenthood if she is having or contemplating having sex with her boyfriend…it’s really that simple to say something like that. I can’t imagine a mom talking to my “boys” about condoms…I’ve done that and would find it terribly presumptuous of a mother to think they need to do that job for me - and frankly, it would cause me to wonder for a moment if the daughter of that mother is emotionally mature enough to even be “sleeping” with my boy as I would assume the mother would be talking to HER daughter. I’ve always taught the kids that if they are too immature to talk about contraception they are to immature to be having sex. </p>
<p>Well…not to get off topic but I think a number of parents would tell their kids if they knew that a company had an internship or job available that they were qualified for. DH does that with our friends kids if he thinks there is a fit at the company he works for. If one of my friends tells me or DH about an internship or job that DS might be a fit for I can’t imagine not telling him about it. </p>
<p>Agree - I would tell my kids if I heard about an internship. But i would never broker an intership for my kids. I have been in a position where a friend called and asked for the phone number of one of our sons but our friends would also never call us - they would call our kids directly.</p>
<p>OP, just tell your daughter to go to the university health center (unless she happens to go to a Catholic college). They will be able to give BC pill information to her.</p>
<p>I think this has been a highly successful trolling effort–8 pages long, and OP only recently got bored. I didn’t find one iota of OP’s posts credible, from the title, to the fake poor English, to the entire tale.
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<p>Whether she’s credible or not, I’ve personally met more than one mother (mostly immigrants) in my line of work who have told me extremely similar tales to what the OP has said. They want to “Americanize” and cope with the fact that their daughter is from a different culture than hers and thus overcompensate by trying too hard. I think the advice here is valuable whether the OP is a ■■■■■ or legit. </p>
<p>I could see this hap–Basically, what romani said.</p>
<p>Difference of cultures and poor coping skills. </p>
<p>Well, the OP certainly has had her questions answered, in my opinion.</p>
<p>Niquii, is that Che Guevara in your picture? It definitely looks like he is smoking a Cuban Cigar.</p>
<p>Why, yes, it is Señor Ernesto himself. :)</p>