<p>I don’t love my boyfriend but when he kisses me (on the lips), I kiss back even though I don’t feel like kissing. I kiss him on my own sometimes but usually just on the neck or cheek. I don’t think he loves me either, but we both care very much about each other. I think he kisses me just because that’s what people do in porn movies (there’s usually tongue involved). My question is: is it okay if I don’t kiss him when I don’t feel like it? and usually, I don’t because I don’t love him.</p>
<p>If you don’t believe you love him, why are you with him? I’m lost.</p>
<p>so you care about each other but don’t feel like kissing? Sounds more like a friendship to me. And define ‘love’… you can want to kiss someone without loving them, you can even have sex with someone without ‘loving’ them, and people often do.</p>
<p>Maybe you’re just not into kissing. I know some people aren’t as crazy about it as others are. However, it sounds like you usually enjoy it or you think you could enjoy it under different circumstances, but just not with your boyfriend now. That is a sign that this particular relationship isn’t right. If you don’t feel like kissing your boyfriend, even when he kisses you, then something is wrong with the relationship. It seems like you don’t like him enough. In a relationship if there aren’t enough moments where you can’t keep your hands off of each other, then it isn’t really meant to be. You should talk to him about it.</p>
<p>I have sex with him even if I don’t love him, but I never thought you have to love someone to do that. Kissing, for me, has different meaning because it gives no pleasure otherwise so you have to love the act for the act itself or for its meaning. Because I don’t love the act of kissing, I have to like it for its meaning. However, I haven’t found that meaning yet because I don’t love the guy. I really care about him romantically though.</p>
<p>woah woah… since when do you have to “love” someone to be item?</p>
<p>Yeah what is this 1750? You can easily go out with someone and kiss them without loving them. You can easily kiss someone without even knowing them. If you feel no passion to kiss them once in awhile you probably shouldn’t be with them.</p>
<p>I don’t kiss people unless I want to. Also, a kiss, for me, has to be meaningful.</p>
<p>Here’s another question: Is it okay for people to be dating but not kiss?</p>
<p>If it’s okay with the two of you and you feel okay, then that’s all that matters.</p>
<p>I think it’s weird that you don’t consider a kiss with your boyfriend to be meaningful. And that you are hung up on the idea that you don’t love him yet. Have you talked to him about all this?</p>
<p>Lol, you do sound really old fashioned.</p>
<p>People kiss because it’s what’s done in porn movies? Lol!</p>
<p>Look at it this way; I’d say most couples in the U.S. kiss after a few dates, which is definitely not love. A lot even have sex after some dates, and still not in love. </p>
<p>So don’t blame porn.</p>
<p>Just think of it as you being in like the 18th century, and he’s in the 21st century when it comes to dating.</p>
<p>I personally would just dump a girl that won’t even kiss before being in “love.”</p>
<p>And kisses don’t have to mean anything. You do it because you like to.</p>
<p>“I think he kisses me just because that’s what people do in porn movies (there’s usually tongue involved).”</p>
<p>…Among other things. LOL</p>
<p>Lol.</p>
<p>I think it’s interesting that you consider sex no problem and comes before kissing. Would you have sex on the first date?</p>
<p>You guys are not reading what she’s posting. She’s not conservative, that’s not why she doesn’t feel like kissing her boyfriend…she just doesn’t like kissing.</p>
<p>You shouldn’t assume san is a she.</p>
<p>Oh wow you’re so right. I did consider that san is he and might be gay, but then I thought this is probably something that would typically go through a female mind. </p>
<p>My bad if you’re a male san.</p>
<p>I’m not old-fashioned considering I’ve had sex with him without loving him. But I do think a lot of his moves come from porn (which I also watch though I don’t always get aroused).</p>
<p>I’m male.</p>
<p>Indeed, we had sex on the first date, but I regret that (HIV scare).</p>
<p>there shouldn’t be any HIV scare unless you didnt use protection… if you didnt thats not smart but you know that</p>
<p>as for kissing in along term relationship its generally a big part of it… but if you really dont like it then dont do it and tell your bf !</p>
<p>Damn porn copiers!</p>
<p>sj, is he just not a good kisser or is it really that you dont love him?</p>
<p>I dont know another way to describe love (in the couples/relationship sense) other than deep romantic care. (Sorry, I didnt mean to take this to the “what is love” level)</p>
<p>I think the problem is that you had sex with him before anything else developed… I feel that kissing can either be a sign of closeness or a test for closeness. I might be wrong, but your case sounds a lot like friendship with benefits.</p>