<p>I don’t know…making out with random guys I meet at parties is appealing. Maybe your just aren’t attracted to him?</p>
<p>I am… otherwise, I wouldn’t have had sex with him.</p>
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Relationships are an important part of college life.</p>
<p>Also, two of the courses I’m taking are relevant to our relationship: an Asian-American Studies course on Chinatown (where he lives) and a psychology course on intimate relationships.</p>
<p>Today, he gave me this stationery stuff in the form of folded mini stars each with a message inside. One of them says he loves me and another one has something that says “(my name) _____ (his name).” I’m guessing he wants to know if I love him.</p>
<p>I’m guessing that you meant to click the “Update Livejournal” bookmark.</p>
<p>aww, san, what did you do after he gave you the paper? that’s so sad. but i wouldnt lie to him… i think its nice you’ve been so honest with him.</p>
<p>basically, you’re attracted to him & like the sex but don’t love him and don’t like kissing him? (just trying to summarize)</p>
<p>I think I love him.</p>
<p>I’m kinda mad at a friend who’s setting me up with someone else. She’s basically saying it’s OK for me to cheat.</p>
<p>Yay, he’s negative!</p>
<p>Kissing without loving each other seems that you guys are merely f*** buddies? </p>
<p>Well if you don’t feel like it, then don’t even bother. question what if either of you gets to like someone else?</p>
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<p>Lena</p>
<p>A few weeks ago, we got into a small fight because I found it problematic that at times, he would get more excited about my roommate than me. I asked if he deliberately planned to have some alone time with my roommate (long story). He said no, but I was suspicious still and persisted with some questions to test him. He got angry at me and for a day we didn’t talk (he started the no communication thing). I thought he was merely trying to get my attention and to get me to feel sorry for suspecting him, but I didn’t, so his plan didn’t work. He finally sent me an email cursing me out for not trusting him and put the relationship “on hold indefinitely.” I said OK, it was time for us to take a break anyway (indeed, that’s how I felt at the time…it was exhausting trying to keep a long-distance relationship). He changed his mind. We talked on the phone for 2 hours about how incompatible I thought we were. I proposed that we take a break, stay single/date other people or whatever so we know we’re not in the relationship just for the sake of being in one. He disagreed at first, but I convinced him it would be the best decision for us. The next time we met up in person, I decided I didn’t want to take the break at all. In my head, I could spell out the reasons I should be with this other boy (we’re really compatible), but my instinct was telling me to go with what I had, and I have a feeling I just committed my life away (seriously). My friends agree that he’s in this for the long haul.</p>