<p>I remember Freshman and Sophomore years where my dad wouldn’t yell at me for getting a B and would praise me for getting an A. He would yell at me and punish me for a C.</p>
<p>Ever since Junior year, I’ve been getting straight As and now nothing’s good enough for him. I’m taking courses on Florida Virtual School and he could follow my grades to the minute. And he called me over the phone for 15 minutes yelling at me because I got a 70 out of 105 on an AP English Lit quiz even though I still have a low A in the class.</p>
<p>He’s always yelling at me when I get a bad grade because he says that companies don’t tolerate substandard work and it would mess up production. Well ****, I’m still in high school and I’m not quite ready to go out in the corporate world until at least 5 years.</p>
<p>I wouldn’t be surprised that if I get constant 95+s, he’d start yelling at me for 90s.</p>
<p>Back in the good old days before online learning, your parents only saw a letter grade and minded their own businesses. Now they can follow every single assignment to the second you turn them in. I can’t wait for school to start.</p>
<p>This is irrelevant, unless you are some kind of mindless robot that assembles parts in a factory. Or if you were a cubicle slave.</p>
<p>In elementary school, I always got 100s on all of my assessments. My parents wouldn’t yell at me, but they would express their disappointment if I got a 98 or a 97 or a 96, etc.</p>
<p>In high school, I received countless Bs due to the rigor of my curriculum. I abysmally failed too many Physics exams to count. But, by then, my parents didn’t mind anymore, because I became independent.</p>
<p>I’m going to really try my best in college, though. That’s a promise I’m making for myself.</p>
<p>Well, my dad’s a computer programmer and a single letter error would screw everything up. I want to go into either business or engineering, or probably engineering management. There is room for mistake in management and in possibly in civil engineering.</p>
<p>When I was in sixth grade, I didn’t do anything. I would just “forget” about my homework and “forget” about studying for a test. Obviously, my parents weren’t too happy about this, and eventually started telling me that I would have a “mediocre” life if I didn’t change it. Now, even through all of this, my lowest grade was a B-. Go figure.</p>
<p>So I did change it. I started to do all my homework and study for all my tests. I started getting straight A’s. At least until the end of freshman year.</p>
<p>Now they get upset when I do everything I’m supposed to do (and, usually, more) and still get a B. The worst part is that my younger brother (a rising sophomore) still doesn’t do anything. He got a C in a class I got an A+ in in freshman year, and they were still more upset about my B in AP Lang. By the way, everything about my brother suggests that he has more natural talent for academics than I do. It can be frustrating, because they know that I’m trying hard to meet both their expectations and mine. And mine are higher than theirs.</p>
<p>In middle school, my school would print your numerical grade along with the letter grade. So when I would bring home 96’s, my parents would get upset and tell me to raise that up.</p>
<p>Now, in high school, only the letter grades are printed. My parents see As and they’re happy. They don’t have to know that I average 93ish. I just want straight A’s, I don’t care how low they are.</p>
<p>My mom says that I’m already too hard on myself so she doesn’t add any additional pressure. Not pushy about grades at all.</p>
<p>On the other hand, for the few sub-B+ grades that I’ve had, she does this whole “disappointed” thing, which gets to me more than her actually being angry (both are really rare).</p>
Not really, people make syntax error all the time. When I do my programming assignment, it takes a few iterations to flush out these errors. I think for civil engineering, there is NO room for mistake. You don’t want another Tacoma Narrows bridge disaster.</p>
<p>Why bother with your parents’ expectations? Live your own life, make your own goals, and reach those goals. Don’t let someone else rule your life. Sure, your parents may be mad at you for disappointing them, but realize parents may just be trying to fulfill their own dreams through you.</p>
<p>My mom never, ever yells at me about grades and studying, which partly explains why I’m on the computer 12 hours everyday and 7 hours during schooldays. Not that she’d probably tolerate all F’s, but then no pressure, ever in studying/academics/grades. Something I do in my own will, but in other areas she’s a little more strict.</p>
<p>My parents have fairly high expectations of me, but they don’t yell at me if I get a poor score on one test. They know I’m mature enough to know that I just need to try harder next time.</p>
<p>Yes! I still get A’s but complain about them being too easy to get, so they alternate between telling me to get over it and to try harder anyway. They tell me I’m not relaxing enough but the second there’s a tank top on my closet floor because I was trying on outfits before a date, I can’t keep up with my commitments…shouldn’t I back off social life and study harder?
I love my parents, but they do contradict themselves <em>all the time.</em></p>
<p>I’ve always had the pursuit of knowledge as as my motivation, and so have always done wonderfully in school – so well, in fact (excuse the hubris) that my mum has ceased to take note of my accomplishments. </p>
<p>I would be like, oh, I aced the calc quiz today, and she would reply along the lines of “oh, nice job” in a somewhat unsurprised tone.</p>
<p>The flipside is, though, that when I fail something abysmally, she neither asks nor cares, knowing instead that I’ll simply strive to do better in the future (sharing the same philosophy on the arbitrary relativity of grades doesn’t hurt, either).</p>
<p>Here are my parents: When I bring home a 33 on a physics test and complain that we weren’t taught a THING on the test, they’re not disappointed in the 33, they’re disappointed at ME [they’re always going ad hominem lol] for not learning the correct material. As far as I knew, I was very prepared to get a high A on that test, it just happened to be over different material than I’d learned. But when I tell them that the 33 was the highest grade in the class, they’re happy :]</p>
<p>I’ve had straight A’s forever, and only in the past year have I really had to TRY to maintain an A. I think I would be more upset if I got stuck with a B than my parents would. They’d be disappointed in me, but not upset, as I’d be.</p>
<p>my dad tried to make me get 100s all the time, and everytime he would “help” me by trying to yell and put me through endless excercises, I did really bad…so he left me alone.</p>
<p>i generally never tell my parents about tests so they don’t expect grades back. They only see the quarter grades, but next year, there’s a new program where parents can see ALL assignments in each class…
I’m dreading this…</p>