It’s not mean - it goes to show you that you need to be more a person than just a student. My daughter’s Val applied to 16 of the top 20 and was 0 for 16 with a 4.0, 10 or 11 APs and a 36 ACT. Got into NYU (full pay) and enrolled at UT Knoxville.
NYU doesn’t bother to list financial aid data in their CDS but I’m sure it’s a heavy full pay school (need aware) - hence they accepted this student.
Your daughter is learning or at least experiencing time management - and that will take her a long way in life - including whatever college she enrolls.
Only the schools know why they accept or don’t students. No parent knows - yield management, wealth, race, rigor, error in the essays or just falling flat, LORs not as great as one thinks, major applied for, lack of LACs - there’s so so so so so many factors - no one has a clue so when I hear - I am a stud but I was wait listed for yield management purposes - I think - their kid didn’t get in and now they are justifying it.
Mine was WL at WUSTL (it was need aware in 2019, we are full pay, they wanted demonstrated interest and he had it). Now, they pushed ED ad nauseum - at the info session, through emails, etc. Would he have gotten in ED? Perhaps - but he was WL. Was it yield management? I’m guessing not but if I want to think - he was a stud with all he did and started a club (aviation club) and had a unique hobby (plane spotting) - no way they could turn him down, so they WL him (and he stayed on btw)…never got in.
One can think - oh, it was yield management - how can it not be? I simply think - they found enough kids they liked better - so he didn’t have what they want. He was rejected - there’s no reason for me to try and justify it.
Other schools accepted him - they saw something in him that they liked - what that was, I don’t know.
My daughter was WL at Emory and W&M - we visited and showed interest at both including a W&M interview (which she had a typo in the thank you note). Was it because they thought she wouldn’t attend or for other reasons - that she just didn’t quite cut it.
Sure, I could think - she was great - worked, head of the humane society, other activities including helping a refugee family with my wife and walking dogs at the shelter.
But while she didn’t stay on the W&M waitlist but did Emory but didn’t come off, I like to think it’s because - she just wasn’t up to snuff for what they wanted.
When she applied to 21 colleges, I thought she would get into 16. She got into 17 (in addition to the two WL, turned down at UNC and Rice).
The one I missed - Washington & Lee. Did she get in academically and holistically, or did she get in because she applied for the scholarship for Jewish kids and they are seeking a Jewish population - and if she didn’t apply for that scholarship, wouldln’t have gotten in?
I will never know.
It seems to me the yield management thing is a way for people to justify their kid not getting in.
Perhaps it’s true and I see the logic - but I think it’s a bit far stretched.
Some top schools or semi top (near as hard to get into as top schools) have horrible yields - schools like Miami, Case Western, and even Emory to an extent.
Take ED out of top schools (and yes some pressure you to change your status to ED2 from RD), and the yields in most cases don’t look great.
So perhaps it’s a - they don’t love us enough to apply ED factor - yep, even at schools that claim not to track Demonstrated Interest…which ED is the ultimate.
But I personally think this is a fool’s perspective and rather a justification by many families to explain - why my kid didn’t get in - vs. the school simply decided that kid isn’t for them.
Not - well I’m in Iowa and the tuition is much cheaper than Michigan so I’m not going to go to Michigan.
Just how I think.