<p>If they do, do you participate in his/her discussion at all? I used to (a little bit) but now she has her real friends there and everybody seems to hate any parent involvement. so I quit. 
But I still look at her posts, at least those she allows me to. She might have set things up so there are things I can’t see.</p>
<p>My younger one does not have a fb account yet. soon it will happen.</p>
<p>How about you? - I’m curious.</p>
<p>Yes, I made it a condition to her joining FB. I do not participate in her conversations, though. One thing that I’ve found funny is that some of her friends have sent me friend requests. She pretends to be mortified, but I think she secretly gets a kick out of it too. (I would never in a million years send a friend request to her friends though.)</p>
<p>suzy, when her friends send you request, do you accept? I did. 
so several of her friends are also mine.</p>
<p>nope.
My older daughter does have me on her twitter list but youngest says “twitter is stupid”.
( My kids are 21 & 29)</p>
<p>For years, my wife and I were not even allowed (by our children) to use Facebook, for fear we might secretly try to befriend them. However, they friended my mother and my sisters. The world changed because of four things: (1) Everybody else’s parents were on Facebook. It wasn’t cool anymore. (2) Our older child was preparing to leave college and go out into the world. She scrubbed her online presence but good, then scrubbed it even more when she got a teaching job (she knew what great stalkers high school students could be). Then she made her brother clean up his act, too. By the time they were finished, there was no longer any point to excluding anybody. (3) My sister called from Shanghai to ask about my son’s new girlfriend, and we didn’t know he had one. (4) My wife actually got a Facebook account, and then decided to measure her self-worth by the number of FB friends she had.</p>
<p>So now my wife at least is “friends” with our kids. I still don’t have an account. It’s not like I need more online distractions.</p>
<p>I’m friends with my kids. But, at their request, I’m not supposed to write on their walls. I am, however, allowed to “like” something. Oh, and some of their friends have friended me, too. (I am under strict orders not originate requests to their friends.)</p>
<p>Both kids have their twitter accounts set to private. So, I can’t follow them. 
Oh, well. FB is enough.</p>
<p>I am friends with my D. I do not comment on anything that she writes (she comments on the things that I write). I am friends with about 3 of her firends but limit the posts to happy birthday.</p>
<p>Only barely. We asked him to befriend us as it was the easiest way to share pictures from his summer in Jordan. He’s got his privacy settings set so that we see almost nothing. The only time I wrote on his wall is when he posted he’d fallen out of his bed. I get more info from the nieces who I am friends with!</p>
<p>Our student and I are FB friends.
Started as a requirement when kiddo got FB in hs.
I very, very rarely “like” something kiddo might post and don’t post to kiddo’s wall.
Do send messages via FB which is helpful since our kid is away at college and then we can get feedback (occassionally) re travel or an important question. etc…
Have told kiddo to un-friend me if it is ruining the mojo haha…well seems so many are on FB that there is no longer a stigma to it…</p>
<p>Yes, I am friends with my kids on FB but I have never liked or commented. It is a privilege to be able to see their albums and I am not jeopardizing that. </p>
<p>Ever since high schoolers and the over-30 folk got on FB the college crowd moved out and don’t actually communicate via FB that much.</p>
<p>I on the other hand have 3 FB groups, one with work friends, one with my book club, and one with township moms.</p>
<p>I am friends with my 29 year old D, but she’s rarely on, and I’m really careful about commenting. My 25 year old S doesn’t have an FB account. Neither has Twitter; they both think it’s stupid (but basically so do I–I’m on it but I don’t really get the point.) I"m probably on computers in general way more than they are (S doesn’t own one, D’s is old and slow, and neither has a smart phone.)</p>
<p>D was in 8th grade and S was a Freshman when we finally gave them the OK to get Facebook. This was about 2 1/2 years ago. 1st condition: That I was their first “friend”. 2nd condition: That Grandma was their second.</p>
<p>I will “like” a picture or a status once and awhile, but don’t go overboard.
And I too have gotten “friend requests” from some of their friends. I will only accept if we are close family friends.</p>
<p>I am friends with my 27 and 29 year old kids and have been for a number of years. We also all follow each other on Twitter. My son has unfriended me on a couple of occasions. Once I got in a lot of trouble with him by taking a picture of him and a girl he brought home and putting it up on facebook and tagging him. He practically burned down the airwaves getting me to take it down. I guess there was ANOTHER girl in his life that didn’t need to see that picture…who knew??? My daughter and I are very active on facebook- my son not as much anymore. I think it has gotten to appeal more to my age group…</p>
<p>I made it a condition to my kids (now 20 and 17) that I could be their friend, or they could give me their password. I am friends with both!
My 20 yr old D lets me post on her wall, comment on photos, etc. She has no restrictions on me whatsoever. I, too, am friends with some of her friends. I won’t friend-request ANY kids, but I will accept their requests.
My 17 yr old S want no part of me on his FB, aside from my being his “friend” (haha!), and I respect that. I do, however, use messaging to keep in touch with both of them.</p>
<p>OP, I check with my daughter before accepting friend requests from her friends, but she’s always told me to go ahead. She’s now thinking about twitter and I’m hoping she doesn’t get an account there (I am not a twitter fan at all) but I see that in my future. Blah.</p>
<p>I am FB friends with my 21-year old D, but I’m blocked on my 18-year old S’s account. I will accept a friend request from friends of my D but will not initiate a friend request with any of her friends.</p>
<p>Friends with both, they just asked one day. Several of their friends as well. They Don’t use it much, it’s mostly for pictures, birthdays, etc</p>
<p>I post pictures of our dogs etc. Once I stop for a nbit, thought I was maybe too many, maybe like two or three a week. Then my husbands friends asked if the dogs were okay cuz they missed the pictures!! They were always funny ones.</p>
<p>MOWC–I make it a point never to tag pictures of my kids–D was tired of other family members regularly tagging pics of her as a kid–she was polite about it, but made it clear she didn’t need all her friends seeing whatever old pics Aunt X put up.</p>
<p>I don’t tag anyway, as it’s always seemed kind of intrusive to me, though i know it’s the norm for lots of people. But I"m extra careful of whatever the kids are involved with.</p>
<p>OTOH, I put up a Thanksgiving diinner video without identifying anyone, and D promptly shared it, so I guess she’s loosening up a bit about online presence.</p>
<p>I’m friends with my 21 year old D. We comment on each other’s posts or post on each other’s walls now and then.</p>
<p>DS and several of his friends are my FB friends. I have noticed that pictures of friends from home (small town) are routinely tagged with parents names as well. DS would kill me if I did that, but it is common in my hometown to see my friends name and a picture of her daughter. Don’t understand why anyone would do that, except to let aunt sally see a picture of DS that he didn’t share with her in the first place.</p>