There is a really strange myopia on College Confidential (and the rest of the world). It’s true that the admit rate at HYPS is stunningly small. And these schools have been mythologized to the point where not being admitted to them feels like failure.
Yet the admit rates at schools like Emory (if you want a uni) or Haverford (if you want a SLAC) are 4-5 times higher: quite manageable for excellent students. More important, they are excellent schools that no one should ever feel ashamed of attending.