<p>I’ve just been witness to some beavhiors recently that just apall/disgust me (to put it dramatically).</p>
<p>The first are 2 girls (one a good friend and another someone I had respected) who’ve just gone “wild.” My friend is just so lonely for any guy’s attention that the first time her parents leave her and the house alone for the holidays she immediately invites over some guy she barely knows and does god knows what, thankfully not as far as sex though. She’s been doing a lot of things like this. Going to different guys’ houses and staying over. When I asked her why she kept doing this if she didn’t really like the guys, she responded with, “Well it’s just something to do. I just want someone to hug and do things with…”</p>
<p>Are some people just so lonely that they’re willing to be intimate with other people they barely even know or like just to try to get rid of the loneliness? I’ve never been in any relationships but observation tells me that engaging in physical intimacy in hopes for what I call the genuine intimacy will only serve to make you more lonely. To me, that’s almost common sense.</p>
<p>As for the second girl I know, she’s been searching for her male fix online. Her once interesting blog has turned into a “porn” site of sorts. Ok, maybe that’s extreme. She’s been taking racy pictures of her scantily clad self in her bikinni, towel, lingerie and posting them/emailing them out to guys online. There was even one where she’s just wearing a thong and her hands are strategically placed over her boobs. I mean, what the hell is that? And this is the stuff that she puts on her blog. God knows what she’s sending out. </p>
<p>It just sickens me because she’s someone I actually know and used to respect. She went through some tramas during her childhood (not sexual abuse if that’s what you’re thinking) and it took a long time for her to tell me as a friend. And now she’s just airing out her business to every guy she meets in hopes of finding “the one” to connect with (as well as those racy pictures of herself).</p>
<p>This just all sickens me. If you aren’t feeling disgusted then you must think I’m a Puritan. And perhaps I am. Seeing behavior like the above only serves to make me want to be more “Puritan-like.” I’ve never had a boyfriend, I don’t tell just anyone online anything personal about me (my best friend is the only who knows), and my bedroom is where I sleep/study – not a porn studio.</p>
<p>Please note, I’m just feeling apalled and self-righteous at the moment and had to vent and was just wondering if anyone else felt disgusted with the world around them because of behavior like this.</p>
<p>that is crazy…i definitely understand being frustrated with some girls’ major need for attention. i’ve seen so many people change into that who i have been friends with, and i can’t understand it. sometimes i think it’s people who have nothing better to do with their lives than chase after boys. relationships are great, don’t get me wrong…but when that’s your entire identity/focus/goal…something is wrong.</p>
<p>1) What is the website these pictures are on?
2) Just kidding
3) Get some new friends next Fall. I don’t really know what you can do to get them to change their ways, but I would simply have them know you do not approve.</p>
<p>It sounds like you should find some new friends, because you’ve clearly come to a very big disagreement over what behavior is appropriate and what isn’t. I have to say I’m not really that shocked/disgusted in hearing this, but I’m sure I know people who would be appalled just as you are. Find people with like minds and you’ll be happier.</p>
<p>The 2nd girl, yes, that’s very screwy. Tell her that most naked chicks on the internet are paid for their time. I don’t see the problem with the 1st girl if she’s not doing anything sexual.</p>
<p>haha horney, attention seeking girls. I respect you for having control of yourself. They are everywhere. Get used to it. Its sad yet its true. Tell em to take some hormone controlling pills lol. Maybe that will help them.</p>
<p>You only live once, you might as well not have any restrictions. I am a firm believer, that if you restrict from doing things you want to do just because it’s frowned upon by society or by people around you, you’re not pleasing yourself. </p>
<p>I personally think that we shouldn’t judge other people for their actions. As long as it’s making them happy at the moment then go for it. Maybe these girls are discovering their sexuality. I mean look at britney spears and christina aguilera, they embrace their sexuality, and there’s nothing un normal about it. If you have ever felt desired or sexy, you glow, it gives you a big confidence boost.</p>
<p>Also I think that it’s very unfare that we, as a society, still critisize girls, when guys aren’t getting sh** for the exact same things.</p>
<p>I’m pretty sure there’s people out there who are bothered by people who aren’t “free” and who might be considered prudes to them. I also understand your concern, but do remember everyone is their own individual, they’ll only stop doing it when they start to see a problem with it.</p>
<p>Get some new friends…or just learn to love them for the hoes that they are :)…jk, I don’t really mind what my friends do, as long as I’m okay with what I do…and if I’m not, I try to forget it and blame it on the alcohol</p>
<p>that’s gross. I have no respect for people who demean themselves to that point, but at the same time, I feel sorry for them. They either have had a very poor role model or have loose morals, values, principles. </p>
<p>I think it would be important to talk to those people and try to help them, or at least try to shine light on what they’re doing for them. Sometimes, people have difficulty keeping their actions and decisions in perspective. </p>
<p>Anyway, I know I also must sound like some sort of “Christian Conservative,” or some similar stereotype, but I’m not even Christian, nor am I much of a conservative. I’m just someone who disapproves of the regressing morality of American culture today.</p>
<p>I have nothing against sexuality; I think it’s fantastic. Nevertheless, you sort of wonder if these girls aren’t setting themselves up for some nasty or dangerous situations.</p>