<p>Because of drugs I had to drop out of HS and I was kicked out of my house. Lived in another state for a few years before I realized it wasn’t worth it. Then I got my diploma and now a 3.9 gpa in CC applying this semester. </p>
<p>Anyway, AA, MA, NA, Alanon, alateen is all bs. A lot of it is nothing but whining, I couldn’t take it. A lot of religion embedded in the 12 step process as well.</p>
<p>Just drop the friends that don’t understand and keep that stuff out of reach. If it’s a serious problem and you want to stop then these things aren’t that big of a deal.</p>
<p>Kitty (should we just call you that?), not sure if this is of any comfort but there’s something I notice in mostly everyone once I get to know them well enough. A lot of us have some sort of addiction to something. When people say it’s genetic, I don’t know if they simply mean we have genetic tendencies or what. It does seem we have some natural tendencies, but I don’t think we’re enslaved by them for the most part. </p>
<p>Anyway, with some creativity, and whether you seek counseling or not, you can probably come up with some good ways of keeping yourself away from it. Do you have a job? If not, that could help some. Figure out if there’s something specifically that’s contributing to the addiction. I notice, with all due respect, that you’re on here a lot. Doing some other stuff can’t do any harm.</p>
<p>I agree with ScienceGuy and MeStudy, whether or not the people youre surrounding yourself with drink/smoke Idk, but if it is the case I would suggest not hanging with them, and if that isn’t the case just gotta find something to pick up and occupy yourself with, maybe exercise, learn a new instrument, shoot anything!</p>
<p>hey guys, thats the thing, i sorta am…anti-social for a number of reasons. i mean i have a best friend but he has two kids and is always busy trying to go to school and work to support them.</p>
<p>then i have my cousin who is real close to me but he stays in massachusetts.</p>
<p>blahh, I’m going to take a lot of your advice and just stay busy, which i have been trying to do, but know i can be more busier.</p>
<p>When I lived back in NJ before moving to CA, I drank, partied and waisted years of my life going no place. I moved to CA in 2007 and began at a CC a year later and still did the same things to my body while getting good grades. </p>
<p>That is until I wanted to transfer to a top UC and realized I had to get my stuff together. I went to meetings, stayed active, and found other outlets besides substances to make up for the things in my life that made me abuse them to begin with. I’m not perfect by any means and still go through my bouts. But here at UCD it’s an entirely different ball game and I have more at stake to lose. Studying 35 hours a week while trying to recover from a case of beer three nights a week is NOT the business, let alone trying to do it all while majoring in Statistics. </p>
<p>Whatever you’re going through kitty, get help asap. Look online, go to meetings in your area at a local church or something, get active, etc. The more you have to take your mind of substances the better. If it’s a severe condition, seek medical help and go from there. From what I see you post here, you have goals you want to achieve, and that’s good. Just be sure to realize that you’re stronger than the shortcomings and do not have to let them destroy you and your dreams.</p>