<p>I see so many threads from girls all over the net along the lines of “I love my professor!!! How can I let him know??!!”, etc.</p>
<p>My college experience was hell & I’m seriously depressed because of it, & I am going to make a thread about it because I want some opinions, but for now I’ll make a thread about why you shouldn’t flirt with your instructors.</p>
<p>I have been a very emotionally weak woman most of my life, but then there was a prof who started to lavish me in the attention I so badly craved, because I didn’t have anyone in my life who cared about me.</p>
<p>Anyhow, I sent this prof an email just asking about the program, & he came on pretty strong; “don’t hesitate to email again!”, he typed. I actually called him sir, but he told me to use his first name only which seemed normal enough. Later he starts asking me questions about myself, & even sent me a file I needed, early, & then tells me "we have a special connection 
" smiley face & all. To me, this was bizarre & innapropriate, but he was giving me the affection & attention I so badly craved, so like an idiot I gave in against my generally good ethical nature.</p>
<p>Two yrs straight we continually email flirt. I started becoming overly needy though & it showed. He didn’t really want to meet me anymore, but still shot me the highly innapropriate email. When I actually sent him a pic of myself he said he couldn’t see why I’d want to bust up that face with sports.</p>
<p>Anyway, when we actually meet after two yrs of emailing & occasional phone convo, he became awful cold towards me. At orientation I introduced myself & he didn’t really respond, I then stuck my hand out to shake his, & then I left. I sent him an email asking if he’d like to have a formally informal meeting at school before classes, just to say hi & all that before classes starts, & he agreed. I go there on time, & he’s chatting away with a friend, so I wait… I waited 15mins & just as I was about to leave, he called me in. Dead silence. He didn’t say a word. It was awkward so I started stumbling trying to figure something out. Our 1st time officially meeting, he’s late, & won’t say hi? For real? And I watched him in class & @ orientation. He was so nice to the other students! Joking away & chatting with them. When I tried to make appointments for legit school work, he’d make them then cancel without notifying me. When I tried to wish him a happy b day he ignored me, but accepted the other students bday wishes. When I tried to ask him questions during break he’d raise his eyebrow & snicker at me, he made me feel so stupid I’d rush my questions so I could go sit back down.</p>
<p>Anyway, I did have a meet with him & asked him if he’s still keeping the emails, he said no & that he deleted them. I met with every dean on that campus after they reviewed the emails; I felt like I was raped, the professor had in fact kept them, so he lied & reported me. In those emails I talked about my childhood abuse & body image, & he showed them. If he showed them the ones where I flirt or whatever, fine, but those really personal & painful ones… My god. He showed them & I felt beyond humiliated. College was not going well for me & the dean felt I should withdraw ( I did fantastic academically however). I wound up in the hospital but told that professor to come see me before I leave. I was to have a final meeting with the dean after my hospital release, & before I go back to my home city. Security approached me, & at the request of the professor, kicked me off campus. Wow. I was in so much pain…, that’s such bs & there’s no reason to do that. If he didn’t want to meet me, fine, but the f–king dean should have had the courtesy to uphold the meeting, not kick me off campus like that. They could have security be present even though I’m not a threat.</p>
<p>Anyway, the dumb prof thought I deleted all his garbage but I didn’t. When I got home I sent the deans his emails. The prof was reprimanded by human resources, which means he probably got a slap on the wrist. He’s a creep. You can always see his pe-is & he flirts & lavishes all the young pretty things with attention. I guess when he saw I was a mature (26) student, he lost interest. He did try to hug me once but stoped when he saw I didn’t know what he was doing, when I tried to shake his hand.</p>
<p>Keep things professional people. Business & pleasure do NOT mix.</p>