@threebeans , also because we’re nosy, let us know how both parties go!!!
@thumper1 the invitations for our party went out a month ago and my sister announced hers yesterday. I will go to brunch, eat & drink and be oh so merry! Then switch gears and repeat later on
And I hope your daughter can attend her cousin’s party as well. It’ll work out and I think you will be glad to have been to both
@twoinanddone I didn’t mean to suggest anything regarding the OP’s sister’s scheduling of her niece’s party. The timing may have been necessary for a variety of reasons, or the conflicting time may have been either an unintentional oversight or a passive aggressive act.
My reference was meant to convey a disappointment in a family dynamic that is seemingly quite common. Wouldn’t it be great if the OP could just pick up the phone and ask her sister what’s up with the scheduling? And before anyone jumps on me, I’m not blaming the OP. Both my wife and I have sibling relationships that sometimes teeter on the dysfunctional side - and I know very well the part we’ve played in contributing to it.
I just find it odd that the people we know from birth, the ones willing to drop everything and be there for us when we need them, are the ones with which we often let lifetime relationships deteriorate over sometimes petty things. I hope the OP can make things work out for these events, but more importantly show her niece and daughter what’s really important.
I know my twins will have their ups and downs over the years. But I hope they are still being brutally honest with one another, long after my wife and I are gone.
It was my niece’s graduation party 4 years ago that was the final straw that broke the relationship between my brother and our parents. Sometimes people just can’t let things go and it’s very sad.
My sister and I have kids the same age. I learned a long, long time ago to just do what I wanted to do because there was never going to be a compromise on her part. We often weren’t invited to parties for her son with the excuse that he was just inviting his friends (which were her friends’ kids). We get along fine, as long as I let her do things her way.
The grandparents made it work.
To wrap this up - the parties were this weekend… My nieces party was attended by all members of my family - we all came separtely from our various errands, two of my kids arrived before I even did. Our graduate was the last to arrive after I had left but did make as long of an appearance as she could. My sister, husband and two kids did come to our party - sister and husband stayed longer than their kids and their graduate did not come at all. So - whatever. It’s over, I enjoyed both events and need a coffee IV this morning after all the fun.
@threebeans Thank you for updating us. I was just thinking about this situation during this busy grad season. Glad it all worked out
It sounds convenient for the families, but just not for you. If I were a family member invited to both, I would like it that they were both on the same day, especially for the out of town people. Good luck!!