We have a big house and a big yard in a place I like and H does not. I think he would like to move but not downsize. He likes a big house. He has also said he wants our house to have room for the kids if they ever come home. I would like to downsize some day and when we move find a place near the kids. I think we should eventually settle near them (when they settle) and move into a place easy to care for and easy for old people to live in.