<p>As long as you can live with the other aspects of the closer job (professionally and financially), I’d take it in a heartbeat, if it becomes available (I’m not careerist at all.)</p>
<p>How secure is the job 14 minutes from home? Will that job be there 5 years from now? Are you interested in growth potential? Are you guaranteed to get this position?</p>
<p>If the answers to the above are in the positive, I can’t imagine this current company wouldn’t understand if you resigned. They KNOW your family resides two hours away.</p>
<p>Congrat’s, VH - too many job opportunities is the kind of complication to have these days! Cheers!!!</p>
<p>Thumper, good questions. Those are the things I need to explore if/when I speak to the woman the job reports to. The company is a start-up, with well-known name brand products (acquired from older companies), and there is undoubtedly a plan to have the company acquired or to take it public. If the former, I’d likely be out of a job. If the latter, I could be rich.</p>
<p>And “guaranteed to get this position”? Of course not.</p>
<p>You know, job security can be iffy ANYWHERE. Just because a company is big doesn’t its immune to layoffs. I guess what I’m trying to say is that it can be a very hard thing to evaluate. </p>
<p>Now…2 hours vs 14 minutes. That’s EASY to evaluate. What a dramatic impact that would have on your lifestyle. Life is too short to be sacrificing so much of it to a remote job. </p>
<p>I will also say that I’m NOT a careerist. My goals are to make a reasonable income, enjoy my work (for the most part) and have enough time to do things I think are important. It’s hard to balance all these things sometimes…but I will say that I don’t miss being a VP. Even the money that comes with it. Not at all.</p>
<p>Go for it Very Happy! And Good Luck!!</p>
<p>I sent an e-mail. We’ll see if and how she responds.</p>
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<p>Toneranger–I think we are the same person.</p>
<p>I have no particular advice to contribute, except that I wish you the very best of luck in whatever you end up doing.</p>
<p>My advice is that you do not have to make any decisions right now.</p>
<p>You inquire about the job opening at former employer and, if one is available and interesting, you apply. If and when you get offered an interview, you accept it. If and when you get a job offer, then you evaluate the position itself, the company, the salary, the benefits, and the other stuff (commute time!) against your current job and make a decision.</p>
<p>At this point all that stuff is moot because there is not a job offer on the table. In other words, don’t worry about that stuff until there is a job offer on the table.</p>
<p>VeryHappy, sounds like this person wouldn’t be leaving for several months in any event. By then you’ll have given the new employer at least six months, which is long enough to decide if this long-distance job is what you want for the next few years, and a better sense of whether your boss will budge on the telecommuting issue.</p>
<p>Pursue it? Why not? Just don’t burn any bridges where you are.</p>
<p>Sigh. I missed this thread the first time around. It described my life, too, sort of. My wife has a big, important job that is mainly centered about two hours away (and also involves a lot of travel). She has a small apartment near her office. She spends weekends with me, and about every other week, or two of three, she can work in the city where we live on Friday, so often she comes home (very late) Thursday night. She usually leaves at 6 am on Monday. Last week she was at her office Monday and Tuesday, on the West Coast Wednesday, Washington DC Thursday, and NYC Friday.</p>
<p>It’s going to get worse before it gets better. Her next job is very unlikely to be any closer to where we live. I am really not in a good position to move.</p>
<p>I know she experiences a lot of the same feelings VH does. She used to rent a floor from someone in a small house, but wound up thinking it was worth it to pay a little more and get more control over her own space. Still, she doesn’t love her work apartment at all, and bristles when anyone suggests she lives there. I manage fine without her – and I at least have the animals to keep me company – but I miss her a lot. And – on top of everything else – this has been going on for about six years, and we are both used to having complete control of our space, so there is somewhat more conflict when we are together, even though we don’t mean there to be at all.</p>
<p>I give my support to those of you who must be apart from your spouse during the week for work. I think it would be very hard. I don’t think that I could do it long term, and maybe not even short term. At this point in life, I would take less $$$ in a trade for more of what made me happy. In my single days I traveled a bit for business, spending a couple of weeks in places I would rather not have been (Tulsa, OK, and Greenville, SC for two), and it was not too interesting after work hours. I suppose you could read more, write or maybe take up a hobby like knitting.</p>
<p>Good luck to those of you in that situation.</p>
<p>My BIL has a job that is several hours away and has rented an apartment for the days he has to work at the office. The first year, that was 5, even 6 days a week, but now he is working from home a lot and spends maybe 3-4 days every other week at the job site. They are settled in their home, school, neighborhood and do not want to move. He is hoping that something opens up near him in the near future. I don’t know what he’ll do if it does not.</p>
<p>anothermom2–Funny you should say that. DH now enjoys hand knit socks, getting a new pair every few weeks. It keeps me buys in the evenings. That part of the situation he likes!</p>
<p>JHS, are you my husband?</p>
<p>Whatever4 said it all:
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<p>I sent an e-mail to the person I’d be reporting to and am hoping to hear back.</p>
<p>Update: The job that was 14 minutes from my house didn’t pan out. I’m still in NJ during the week and home on the weekends. I am “breaking up” with my current roommate this weekend, not because of anything about her but because of the parking situation. There is no place to leave my car, and I’m in no financial position to pay to garage my car. I’m moving to another place, with another friend of (another) friend, to stay in her spare bedroom in her house.</p>
<p>Hope it all works out!</p>
<p>Hang in there, VH. Thanks for the update.</p>
<p>Hope the new arrangement works out…and that it includes off street parking!! included in the rent!!!</p>
<p>There’s on-street parking, which is always available.</p>