<p>I am having trouble dealing with my son living in a house this year with 6 other guys after completing freshmen year in a dorm.I feel like he won’t be able to put forth his best effort even though he did fine last year after finding beer for the first time.He says it won’t be much different from last year living in the dorm, but I find that hard to believe.He’s a good kid worked full time all summer and he got the same job that he worked at college last year back because his boss liked him a lot , even wanting him to stay for the summer.I’m hoping that this is just a one year thing , and next year settles down and decides on an apartment with just one or two other people. I even told him I hope he gets a girlfriend to help things.The thing that got me going was as I pulled the moving van up to the front door and there was already tons of empty beer cans on the front porch even though his roommates had just moved in a couple days before and the place had more aluminum than the Alcoa plant.</p>
<p>You may have issues.</p>
<p>You may not.</p>
<p>What you may well end up with are unwanted legal problems if your son is under 21 living in a house where alcohol is regularly consumed.</p>
<p>He may well be the best kid in the world. But let’s face it… most college kids
will drink. Some will drink responsibly, some won’t.</p>
<p>Alcohol tends to make some people very stoopid and loud. Loud and stupid behavior often irritates neighbors. Some neighbors tend to call the police.</p>
<p>I wish you luck.</p>
<p>It sounds to me that there may have been a party going on sometime during the couple days prior to moving in. Or it could be that the trash hasn’t been taken away all summer :eek: That’s a distinct possibility with guys- just let the trash pile up.</p>
<p>I just discovered that, for the first time, my son will be living in an apartment at college with roommates who drink alcohol. When I dropped him off there today, there were both full and empty bottles all over the living room. (My son does not drink because of a medical problem, but he doesn’t object to other people’s drinking.)</p>
<p>I am very glad that my son is 21. If this had happened in any previous year, I would have been worried because of the possible legal issues.</p>
<p>Re trash: My son spent the summer on campus in a different apartment, which had been occupied during the last school year by him and three other guys. All of the other three went elsewhere for the summer. None of them bothered to remove their food from the refrigerator before departing. My son, who was the only occupant of the apartment during the summer, did not remove the food, either (and didn’t use the refrigerator because he has a small one of his own). As far as I know, the old food is still sitting there, two and a half months later. You gotta wonder what’s going to happen when someone opens the refrigerator door.</p>
<p>“You gotta wonder what’s going to happen when someone opens the refrigerator door.”</p>
<p>I smell a science experiment.</p>
<p>our son went from a dorm double to a house with 11 students soph year and pulled down a 4.0 gpa.</p>
<p>It really depends on the people who are asked to be in the “group house”. Yep, there were some weekend parties but every apt mate was a serious student having fun designing their wireless LAN, gerry-rigged projection tv, and manuevering for meaningful summer experiences which ranged from Salamanca Espania to Pasadena California and several points in between.</p>
<p>Yes the decor was collegiate tenement but our ds is thriving in the environment of off campus independence and saving about $4,500+ per year, a benefit which allowed him to remain in Troy last summer to work with a professor on research last summer.</p>
<p>We have seen only benefits to his move off campus following freshman year. It is as close to the academic quads as most upper class dorms and he is experiencing some responsibilities of independent adult living.</p>