<p>My S got dumped for the Homecoming dance. I feel so bad for him. He is a senior and this is the first time he asked a girl to a dance. The have been dating for about a month. The dance is this coming Saturday and she texted him after school and said she changed her mind. I think he is embarrassed and disappointed, but to his credit says he plans to go with his 3 good friends. I’m just giving him space and time to sort it out. Poor guy!</p>
<p>Ouch. Good for him though. Can you give the 4 of them a nice before dinner or afford to send them to a restaurant? Maybe pizza and a stay over after.
Just do not talk about it too much!
he is not a girl:).</p>
<p>Good call and I hope he enjoys the homecoming. </p>
<p>While my HS didn’t have a homecoming dance, I was similarly turned down by a girl to my HS prom. While I was also disappointed, I decided to go stag and hang with my friends. </p>
<p>Ended up having a memorable time and oddly enough, I ended up dancing with both the girl who turned me down and her best friend* for most of the night. Hopefully he’ll get lucky as I did at my prom. :)</p>
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<li>She opted to come with her best friend rather than take any date.</li>
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<p>My son also got dumped right before senior prom. He decided to go stag and had a great time. All the other girls felt bad about what happened and he had plenty of girls to dance with! Hope he ends up having a great time.</p>
<p>I’m glad he’s going!</p>
<p>Around here most kids go in groups. Not even half are on a date and about half of those are just on a date with a friend. </p>
<p>I hope he has a blast.</p>
<p>My son was told right before prom that his date had forgotten that she had other plans for that night and couldn’t go. She was from another high school. He decided not to go and was out the money for both the tickets and his and her share of the limo. I would have loved to have given her (and her mother) a piece of my mind but knew that it wasn’t something my son wanted me to do.
Glad your son is going and hope has a great time.</p>
<p>It’s a reflection on the girl not him. My son, with plenty of dating/girlfriend experience, has had this happen to him. Any girl/guy who would do this does not deserve to be asked again, by anyone ~ often, they are not. Word gets-around and she will not be well thought of. It’s probably a small price for him to pay -to pick better next time, or for the long run.</p>
<p>snugapug - My DD’s male friend was also dumped at the last minute this past weekend. It made me think about the time I was a naive freshman in college and a senior guy was very aggressive about asking me out. I agreed but for some reason the guy made me feel very uncomfortable and I feigned illness right before the date. I felt terrible about it but as an adult I look back and agree with my younger self that there was just something not right about the situation.</p>
<p>I’m not saying that last minute dumping is the mature way to handle the situation or that every guy that gets dumped is a creep. But sometimes there are extenuating circumstances where the girl may not be entirely at fault.</p>
<p>Getting dumped stinks. I hope your son just brushes it off and goes and has a great time. Guys seem to let this stuff go pretty quickly so I agree with others who say don’t revisit it.</p>
<p>This year my son’s date told him that her parents would not allow her to go to homecoming dance with him less than a week before the dance. (Turns out it was true - her parents did not let her go - at all). My son decided to go anyway - with his friends. However, he still preferred to have a date.</p>
<p>I told him that there are probably plenty of girls who still do not have a date and would be thrilled to be asked. He asked around and found out a girl he liked (not romantically) was not asked yet. So he did and she said yes. They both had a great time, even though they were not really a couple.</p>
<p>Thanks for the supporting words. I won’t talk about it unless he brings it up. Today he dressed for Spirit Day and said his HC buddies are planning to go out for dinner before the dance. But he also had no appetite for breakfast and turned down an offer of a packed lunch. So he is processing his feelings. He is a great kid- I am so proud of him!</p>
<p>I wouldn’t suggest that he ask another girl this late. There’s very little time left to get a dress and shoes and make an appointment to get your hair done. A girl might actually resent the invitation.</p>
<p>My son was dumped for junior prom last year, in theory because some paperwork didn’t get processed… But I’m not convinced. He was unhappy, but wound up going someplace special with some good friends and saved me a couple hundred dollars. Didn’t seem to bother him much after a week or so, and he’s still friends with the girl now.</p>
<p>“Hopefully he’ll get lucky as I did at my prom”</p>
<p>TMI ;)</p>
<p>Seems like he’s handling it pretty well as a grown up. He’ll still have such a great time with his friends, and those are the memories that he’ll keep with him when he goes off to college!</p>
<p>I got dumped the week before my senior prom. Ouch! But I went with my best friend and her date and we had a wonderful time! Your son has a good head on his shoulders and I’m sure they’ll have a great time. Living well really is the best revenge!</p>
<p>My son was dumped about a week before his Junior Prom. When word got around in one of his classes that he had been dumped, one of the jocks told him that he didn’t have a prayer of finding a date before the prom.</p>
<p>My son then asked around in choir if there were any girls who wanted to go to Prom and found one who was in the Ballroom Dancing Club who was willing to go. When my son told the jock that he had a date for the Prom, the jock said “Effen choir kids”. Sometimes it helps to be in the right group of students.</p>
<p>My daughter opted out of homecoming dance last weekend, but got all bent out of shape because she thought one of her girlfriends and the boy who dumped her back in August were getting together…way too much drama for this mama ;)</p>
<p>So…on the flip side: My daughter did the dumping. Her long time boyfriend…I’m not sure why he didn’t ask her early…but he didn’t. I felt awful…for the boy. This was prom btw…The other boy did forgive her. He is now in a relationship and happy. My daughter is still with the boy. </p>
<p>I told her that I was disappointed in her decision…initially. But who knew that prom date will (I hope) turn into a marriage.</p>
<p>@Hat "My son was dumped for junior prom last year… He’s still friends with the girl.</p>
<p>Why?</p>