<p>So, I’m sure you have probably heard this from other girls. I will be going about an hour and a half away for college, which isn’t far so most people say that I could visit my boyfriend on the weekends. But he’s a police officer and has a very different schedule than most people. Working ten hour shifts and usually having off on a Tuesday, Wednesday or Thursday can make it really difficult for us to see each other. However, lately it’s been really hard for be because dealing with the usual feelings about college, being around new people, in a new place, much more work, missing the family, etc, I’m going to be leaving a serious relationship with my boyfriend behind. We are both willing to try and stick it out, and have no reasons why we shouldn’t, but does anyone wanna throw me some suggestions on how to make things a bit easier leaving and then dealing with a long distance relationship?</p>
<p>It won’t last.</p>
<p>I am a military wife and have only spent half my marriage with my husband home. Long-distance relationships are a lot of work. If both of you think that you have a future together, by all means, give it a go. If not, then I would just end it before college.</p>
<p>Going home every weekend might not work. It could hurt your grades or prevent you from making friends (which would come in handy in case your relationship doesn’t work out).</p>
<p>Enjoy school breaks together. Get a webcam. Make sure he is the one visting you as well. If you are the only one driving to see him, something is wrong with that picture. He could easily drive to your school on his day off for dinner and movie on occasion.</p>
<p>Take it day by day would be my advice. Many people will say it won’t work out, and yes in most cases that is true, but every relationship is different. If you have a solid, loving, relationship without trust, communication, etc issues, you should be fine :)</p>
<p>Besides, he has a good job - you need to hold on to that. :D</p>
<p>srose, Thanks so much for the advice. We both do believe that we have future together, and that is why we are taking on the challenge of making this relationship a successful one. I don’t plan on coming home every weekend, being that he does work almost every weekend, and I agree that I do need to spend time on campus and make friends. I’m being smart about this whole long distance relationship thing, because instead of messing up my priorities, my goal is to make the most of college, and include my boyfriend at times, and make this relationship work. I hope that everything works out, I will be sure to come back and read your reply for motivation!</p>
<p>not only does he have a great job, he’s great at doing it. having someone in your life with a job like his makes you look at everything from a different perspective, and cherish everything so much more.</p>
<p>When my husband is gone, we usually spend about an hour or two talking online/webcam/phone in the morning before I went to work/class. The rest of the day was for me, school, friends, etc. It’s all about finding that perfect balance. If you spend too much time with your phone stuck to your ear talking to your BF, you will miss out on college activities, but if you don’t take time out each day for your BF, that relationship will suffer.</p>
<p>Good luck</p>